Ok so here's my dilemma?

Question

I am the mother of 2 boys ages 5 and 2 (almost 3) and I am currently 16 weeks pregnant with baby boy #3. I have been told that since my youngest is 2 that I should have what I need for the new baby. Well due to hard financial times all the baby items I had in a storage unit I ended up not being able to pay it and lost all the items I had.... I have a selected few items that I recently found found my previous babies that are in good shape, but I don't have any of the necessities to bring home baby. My question is should I have the baby shower or not. Many of my close friends think I should but there are those few nay sayers.. What are some of your thoughts and opinions on baby shower etiquette's

Answer 1

I say go for it.  Those that know you should know the difficulties you are facing financially.

God Bless!

Answer 2

i think that it's alright to have a baby shower anyways... but if you dont think that its a good idea from the people that said not to maybe try and find a way to advertise that you need boy stuff and you could get it for free. I've heard of a yahoo group that we have here, it's called "free-cycle". People post stuff that they need and stuff that the want to get rid of. it's all free you just have to go to their place and pick it up.

Answer 3

personally i feel that you should have another, there is no rule what so ever that you cant have another baby shower! good luck and congrads on number 3!

Answer 4

First thing is you should start shopping all the sales that are going on right now, you can get some really good deals.  Second thing is talk to your family and see if they are able to help out.  Next, go on ebay and craig's list and see what kind of cribs and things that you can buy for cheap.  I knw it isnt going to be wht you "want" per-say, but it will be better than nothing.  Next you can also look up garage sales in area on craigs list.  Shop the garage sales for your baby stroller, walker and things of that nature.  Try to find a way to bring in some extra money.  Have a garage sale of your own to get rid of the things that you dont need (kids toys, clothes, ie).  After all that I would have a baby shower and only register for the 100% needed things.  Dont register for the most expensive things, but your friends and family should be willing to help out if you are in need!

BTW the shower is to celebrate the life of the child.  The things are "benefitting you" they are benefitting the child.  If your friends feel you shouldnt have a shower, then they can choose not to come.

Answer 5

This is my first pregnancy and since i just got married a few weeks ago no one will throw me a baby shower because i guess thats asking for too much from my family... If i could have a shower i defintley would however i cant afford to throw my own shower. If someone in your family is willing to throw you go for it. I used the money i got from my wedding to buy baby stuff and i still dont have everything i need.  

Answer 6

My wife had a baby shower for my son and let me tell you, we could have bought more stuff then we got for the amount we paid for the shower.  With all the food and drinks and games...bahh  ;-)

Answer 7

go ahead and have a baby shower. every new baby needs new things.  

Answer 8

I'm going through the SAME THING! I've been told by many people to go ahead and have the baby shower. Some women have baby showers for theire 4th and 5th kids. Each baby should have a baby shower. Besides, they deserve new things just like your first one got. I'm 29 wks w/ a 2 1/2 yr old daughter and I'm having a baby shower. ppl on here will tell you that its not right, but don't listen to them. If someone wants to throw you a baby shower then let them and enjoy it!!!

Answer 9

Have a shower! Your friends will come and help... and who cares about the negative people.

Answer 10

If your friends want to give you a shower, you get to have a shower.  But you may NOT throw one yourself.

(And, to be just a bit blunt -- it is not the responsibility of your friends/family to support your children.  If you really couldn't 'afford to buy what you need for a third baby, maybe you should have waited to get pregnant again until you COULD afford it.  Showers are a nice extra.  They are not required, and do not exist so you can force your friends to support your children.)  

Answer 11

Who cares about the people who dont think you should have one.  If you don't have the stuff... have a shower.

Answer 12

My cousin has 4 kids and has had a baby shower for everyone. i say have one. its better to have one than to not have the things you need for your son. and the people who say nay can just get over it

Answer 13

baby showers are to celebrate the coming of your new baby, I say have one, I wouldn't care what anyone would have to say about it, look you have two kids, things are hard on you and everyone should understand that, and get their Panties out of a bunch. I also would get hammy downs and wash them and use them too, there isn't anything wrong with that. Best of luck Hun, and god Bless you.

Answer 14

HAVE A SHOWER not olny do you need the things but just because its your 3rd you shouldn't have one there wouldn't even be a question if this was your first and there still shouldnt be a question. The people who told you you shouldnt dont invite them.

Answer 15

What makes this baby less special than the others, you should have a shower, just show everyone how thankful you are for their gifts. Everyone deserves new.

Answer 16

You shouldn't bother yourself what other people think. You go on yourself girl and organise your baby shower...they other folk are just jealous your having a gorgeous bundle and their not !! ; ) Sorry bit cheeky of me. Just one other thing, I would like to say I'm sorry to hear about your circumstances, losing a lot of your baby items...hopefully family & friends, who've had babies will be able to replace a lot of it. If I had stuff to give you I would, but like you I am starting from scratch as this is my first baby...well should I say babies (twins : )). Good luck and as I say to h**l with what other folk think!!  

Answer 17

Sure.  But if you feel uncomfortable with doing it, try garage sales.  I know that if you go onto Craigslist.com, you can find out where they are in your area.  Then get up early on Saturday mornings and you never know what you'll find.  I saved hundreds by hitting them up early.  Good luck

Answer 18

If your friend throws one, then I say it's ok.  I don't believe that anyone should have more than one baby shower unless the first baby is 5 or older or it's the first child of one of the parents.  Anyway, there are extenuating circumstances and this sounds like one of them.  Also, try freecycle.  You can find a lot of stuff there.

Answer 19

have the shower...just invite the ppl who will be supportive ....not the nay sayers.

a baby really doesn't need that much stuff when first home...

the most important is a car seat to bring baby home...

Answer 20

Honestly I don't think you should throw yourself a shower.  If a friend or family member volunteers to throw you one though, I wouldn't turn it down in this situation.  I think for the most part showers are for first pregnancy only, but if you don't have the stuff then I don't see anything wrong with it.  Also check out local consignment stores, ebay, craiglist, and garage sales!  We've spend $50 on my son this summer and he's ended up with a bike, Lego big dump truck, rocking fish, little tikes slide, little tikes picnic table, little tikes outdoor climb and slide, little tikes car, Sesame Street tool bench with all tools included, puzzles, and little school bus!  All in great condition and all at garage sales this summer!  Get up early and be one of the first there:)  Good Luck!