Ok so here is my situation hope someone could advise me?

Question

I work next to this girl that is always bad mouthing this other girl at work. What I hate about this is that in front of her she tries to act all nice and is always talking to her. What should I do? Should I warn this other girl about her? I'm really tiered of listening to this girl and then trying to act like she's her best friend... help!

Answer 1

Is the "other girl" in danger of getting into trouble or being fired from her job because of the mean girl? If that's the case, I would probably go to the boss. If she's not in danger of losing her job, I would probably speak to the mean girl and let her know (professionally! - workplace and all that) how I feel. Just keep in mind, if you do choose to do something, this could sic mean girl on your butt! Just do what you feel comfortable with and what you think is best.

Answer 2

Stay out of it. Because if you tell the girl who is being bad mouthed, you will be just like her. So, you can confront her in a funny way, maybe say it and laugh about i like: "so, why don't you say this to Z, say this in front ofher..." and Laugh about it, but don't go to the other girl to tell, she will be negative about you.

Answer 3

I have found that if you actively discourage the person from telling you stuff, they soon quit.  You might have to be blunt and actually say " I don't like the way you talk about Sue, I don't want to hear it anymore" or you can sometimes get the point across more quietly by changing the subject when she starts talking down about others.  Unfortunately this type of person will probably talk about many people behind their back(s) and they're not the type of person you probably want to be around.  Thus I would make every effort to discourage her from bad-mouthing others, you're actually doing her a favour as this type of behaviour is not admired and it will hold her back in life.  Good luck!

Answer 4

I think that you should not get involved in anything that goes on between these 2 girls... however, you should tell the bad-mouther that you aren't interested in hearing anything mean or negative!  Everythime she starts up with it, remind her... "Susie, I really don't want to hear it.  If you can't talk possitively, don't talk to me."  "Bad-mouthers" are usually very negative and unhappy people & they have a tendancy (and need) to bring others down.  Don't let her bring you down... and distance yourselves (even if it's only with silence) when she acts this way.  Eventually she will realize that if she wants to enjoy your company & conversation, it will have to be in a possitive and joyful manner.

Answer 5

I probably wouldn't tell the girl who is being talked badly about what was happening; it would only hurt her feelings and result in an awkward situation at work. As far as the other girl goes, maybe you could ask her to please stop saying those things because the other girl is your friend. Or try asking why she dislikes her so much. I hope this helps!

Answer 6

If you attentively listen, your an accomplice. The next time the  two-faced girl starts her c**p, simply respond with a straight, non-threatening or accusing, but matter of fact: " I don't do gossip. Sorry". If your not bold enough to do that, just stop her before she starts and tell her to go hash it out with the girl, and that what she does seems kinda two-faced. She'll get the point. Why do you even listen to her? Your enabling her.

Answer 7

record wt the bad girl says and give it to the gd girl and

Answer 8

This is one of those situations that if you handle it incorrectly, could reflect badly upon you. For one, think twice about confronting the bad girl yourself. Try your manager first or HR representative. For one thing, if she is badmouthing someone behind her back, she is most likely doing it to you too. If you do feel you need to confront her, do it politely and be honest. Tell her that you don't think it is fair of her to talk about the other girl behind her back and then get all nicey nicey with her. Let her know you don't approve of it and that if it continues, you will inform the good girl about what is going on. Hopefully your manager or HR department will do something about it and you won't have to get involved. And remember, she is probably doing it to you too.

Answer 9

Ask the mouth if she is perhaps a tad jealous of the other girl. Have you thought the mouth might just be bad mouthing you. So ask her! Don`t let anyone bad talk other people in your presence unless you agree with them. lol

Answer 10

Stay out of it, they'll both end up mad at you.