Ok so my 15 year old friend is prego...but w/ a big twist? Any help?

Question

Ok here is the deal. My friends sister was raped a little over two months ago and has since discovered she is pregnant. What should she do? She was never sexually active before this or after and does not believe in abortion. Oh and the twist is the guy who raped her was her father. The authorities already know and it is being handled, but this is now an even bigger problem. What should she do?

Answer 1

WOW that's super f'd up. im really sorry for your friends little sister :(  even though she doesn't believe in abortion, does she really want to have a kid with her FATHER??? by the way that child will not even come out right. it will be all biologically screwed up and mentally ill.  i think in this situation the way to SAVE a life, would be to have that poor fetus aborted.  

Answer 2

Even if she doesn't believe in abortion she should get one because the baby would be messed up. It wouldn't have all the things it needs because the daughter has the same genetics as the father so it would work right.

Answer 3

wow

well i dont believe in abortion bu in this case i think its a good idear!! this child will just remind her about it all and when the child as who my dad and she tells him the truth the kid will be screwed up mentaly and if she lies he will find out because the truth always comes out!!

i think abortion is ok in this case!!

xoxo

Answer 4

tell her to tel her mom

she needs to get help

reallt other than that theres nothin else

and if its her biological father

the baby may come out with some kind of disease

cos the samegenes doesn't work together

Answer 5

Wow thats such a scary situation. First of all, that girls father should be locked up. What sort of messed up person rapes their own daughter? And he got her pregnant? So that her child could be both his child and grandchild? There is a chance that her baby will have mental issues or deformation. I'm sorry, I'm not sure what I'd do myself.. but I'll pray for you guys. God bless.

Answer 6

Just temperarily believe in abortion... Seriously, incest? There's a possibility of the child being disabled... I know there's a long debate about whether a disabled child deserves to live and yadiya... But is it worth the mother bearing the pain for another, whatever... Plus 15! Just start over, sure she's scarred for life... But maybe being scarred is better than constantly bearing the pain of an open wound... I'd say the earlier the better... But it's really your friends decision.

Answer 7

Please tell your friend to go speak with a doctor, counselor, or someone at her church.

Offer to go with her.

There a so MANY things she needs to think about with this problem.

Sometime we all need help making the best choices for ourselves. :)

Answer 8

go talk to a counseler or a therapist, they can help her decide the best decision for her, and help her threw it

Answer 9

I think she should go with what she wants to do. Despite what people will tell you abortion is a serious choice and should be concidered as much as adoption and keeping the child should be. But her parents need to know.

Answer 10

Well, this is a big problem. If she has the baby, she is going to be emotionally scarred for life. When people is going to ask her who the father is, she will probably have a flashback and maybe a emotional breakdown.  If she has the abortion, she might forget about it easier and go on with her life better.

Well, Adoption is the 2nd choice as well.

Answer 11

if she doesn't believe on abortion then obviously she will have the baby, the question is does she want to keep it or give it up for adoption, which is a difficult decision.

she is in a sticky situation my sympathies for her.

Answer 12

Well, there isn't much that you yourself can do. If it's being handled by the authorities then she should be okay. If she wants to keep the baby, she could put it up for adoption if she feels unstable to have a baby. Just be supportive of any decision she makes.

Answer 13

i man raping his own daughter, sicko. Its evil. She should put the baby up for adoption.

Answer 14

OMG THAT IS SAD

im rlly srry about ur friend=/

i think she should have the baby...even tho its kinda creepy tht its her dads baby...but plz dnt let her get an abortion XD

Answer 15

I think that she should give it up for adoption, but I don't think many people would want an 'inbred' child.  If she feels that she will be able to raise it herself, she should.  

Answer 16

um. ew. first of all. hmmm....sounded like the secret life of the american teenager show on abc family, until the dad part. I would vote GET AN ABORTION! that kid would have way to many problems. and it just sounds wrong, and prosecute the dad. He has mental problems, obviously! I think the dad may be a CREEPER!!!

Answer 17

I think she needs to have all the appropriate testing to make sure the baby doesn't have any defects. There might be something really wrong with it and in that case she might want to consider abortion for the sake of the child. I do not believe in abortion under normal circumstances, but since her father got her pregnant the baby might have serious problems. If it is a healthy baby then she should give it up for adoption.

Answer 18

i cant answer what she should do... but i can tell you my advice.

Be there for her, don't judge, don't criticize and certainly don't tell her what to do. She has enough going on without you 'interfering' no matter how good intentioned it is.

However, as you are a 'friend of a friend' kinda thing - i think its unlikely you'll be asked directly for any advice. I think best to keep out of it unless she asks you directly, which i think is unlikely. Better to be there for your friend and give moral support that way.

Answer 19

That is messed up! I think since she's going to have it, she should put it up for adoption so she can put it behind her and try to live a happy life. She probably needs counselling to deal with the trauma of being raped by her father,though. Also, she should have tests done on the baby due to the birth defects that occur from incest. Abortion is a horrible thing but I beleive that in some instances it is just the best option. Not that I would incourage her to do that.

Answer 20

I think in this situation it is really your friends choice, i am not pro abortion, ALTHOUGH, in this situation, I am.  There is alot of emotional trama your friend would have to go through in being pregnant, going through labour and delivery, even if she is to give up the baby in the end.  Also, being her father is the father of the baby, there is many many many complications that can occur due to the similiar genes, lots of chance of the baby being handicapped.

Althugh, it is your friends decision on what she feels is best for her.

Answer 21

obviously have the baby. Pro choice.

then keep it or give it up for adoption.  

Answer 22

You should encourage your friend to talk to an adult she trusts about her options.  This pregnancy is going to be very difficult and emotional for her, and she's probably going to need some type of professional counseling.  I think that in this situation abortion would be an understandable choice, but if she's very against it, then perhaps she should consider giving the baby up for adoption.  Raising the baby herself would be very difficult.....she may not be able to handle all the emotions involved, she may resent the baby for how it was conceived, and it would be very difficult to explain the situation to the baby once he or she is old enough to understand.  Your friend really needs to speak to a trusted adult, she will not be able to handle this on her own.

Answer 23

oh my god, i'm so sorry for you and your friend

i know exactly what youre going through, trust me :(

except i didnt get pregnant

if your friend doesnt believe in abortion, then just wait until the baby is born, and you can put it up for adoption

if she doesnt believe in that either, she can just give it away to a family member or trusted friend

if not, then sadly, shes going to have to keep the baby which will be hard considering her own father is her baby's father

i hope the pregnancy goes well

and im so sorry for what happened to your friend because nobody deserves being violated like that, especially by her own father

he should get arrested and get what he deserves because the world doesnt need scum like him

<3

Answer 24

Due to the sensitivity of this case, your friend sister should really seek out some professional mental health care. Otherwise it will have huge consequences.

The big question is what to do with the baby. As she is against abortion, clearly that isn't an option, however, in my personal opinion, that would be best for all involved. Due to the child's parents being father and daughter, there is obviously a higher chance of abnormality's. Whether they be physical or mental.

Adoption does come to mind, however many adoptive parents would be somewhat hesitant to adopt an "inbred" child. So this could prove difficult to give the child a decent quality of life.

Keeping the baby is the third option. But every time she looked at the baby she would be reminded of what her father did to her. I mean, it could work out ok, but there is a strong chance that she could end up with resentment towards the kid.

As I've already mentioned abortion seems kindest. Maybe you should talk it over with her again.

Give hr time to REALLY think about what she wishes to do. Whatever she decides she'll live with this forever.

Good luck, to all of you.