Ok - so what about this?

Question

a guy I was dating once was sleeping with me - but he was already in a relationship and had a child with her too. I didn't know about this but ended it as soon as I found out. He only wanted me for the s*x - I stupidly slept with him on the first night we met - and he thought that would be it - but I gave him my ph no. and he went out of his way to see me again (for more s*x on his part, I thought we were dating). Anyway he went on to marry the gf he was cheating on. And I don't think she ever knew, although a couple of his best friends did. So he got away with it. Like, I know I am hurt and should just move on, I'm not out for revenge or anything (I can't anyway as I don't know them anymore) but is there ever going to be a consequence for him? Or does he just totally get away with his cheating?

Answer 1

if you want to move on, you don't care about whether his wife would ever know or not.  

If they have responsible friends, let them be the ones to tell her.

Anyway, it wouldn't matter as long as he would not do it again.

If he continue to cheat, then his wife would eventually know about it.

Just concentrate on moving on and learn your lesson hopefully you would be more careful in choosing the guy next time around. Good luck

Answer 2

By the sound of it he will just get away with it. Move on and you will find yourself a man that will treat you right.

Answer 3

What goes around comes around.  

Answer 4

karma, what goes around comes out.  next time think about it before you sleep with someone u dont know, not saying anythin bad about u thats ur choice, but if you had waiting u would know what he was like and the situation and what he wanted from you.

Answer 5

of course he would. there is no such thing as karma. but u shouldn't be bitter about it - put it in a lesson file and next time when a guy is hitting on u u:

a) do not automatically presume he is in love with u and wants to marry and nurse your babies

b)do not sleep with anyone on the first night no matter how much he says he loves u - when a guy wants to have s*x he will tell whatever

c) if a guy courts u and when u say no to s*x he leaves u - he was there for s*x only so u re better off without him anyway

and there can be many many lessons out of that one so never regret about anything. good luck

Answer 6

Once a cheater always a cheater. So at some time he will cheat on her with someone else.

You are not so innocent for allowing yourself to be used for s*x. If you had stood your ground you wouldnt be so hurt right now.

Answer 7

Of course there will be consequences for him, how couldn't there be? His behavior is destructive and will ultimately lead to him metaphorically eating his own tail.

He probably didn't stop the cheating after you two split, and will probably continue to cheat on his girlfriend (wife now?) for as long as he can get away with it. But no guy ever gets away with it for long. They get sloppy or one of the girls tells or one of his friends tells or his wife gets wise to the fact that her husband is staying out all hours of the night and getting weird phone calls from other women.

No behavior so risky can last for very long. Every guy either gets caught or digs himself in a hole of depravity that they bury their very soul in and can never escape. (And that's punishment enough anyway.)

Answer 8

Face it, some people just totally get away with it, but that means that they think they will get away with it again.

Eventually they will get caught and have to pay.

Answer 9

Don't worry about it if he does he does if he doesn't he doesn't learn from your mistakes and apply it to your next adventure. Good luck, good rid-ins, good god.

Answer 10

No, Karma will come around and get him sooner or later. I believe in Karma...what goes around, comes around. Sooner or later, she will cheat on him, and for all we know, already has...he just doesn't know it.

Answer 11

The best way for you to get over this is to forgive him. As counter-intuitive as that sounds, you forgiving him will set yourself FREE! You are only harming yourself by keeping him in your mind. If you like this idea read a book called "Total Forgiveness" by R.T. Kendall.

Answer 12

Wow!!!!

To be totally honest, yes he lead you on, he used you for his needs and dumped you. My husband did the same to some chick and came back. I would have never known unless she told me. I'm angry at her for knowing he was married and yet still going ahead but thank god she told me as he had another one lined up. This could have gone on for years. Truth hurts, it always has and always will. You need to tell her, she could be in the same position I was in and its really not fair.

Yes you're hurt, it sucks, but surely you owe this girl an explanation. She has every right to find out. She may not like you for it but in the long run its the best way - not only to live with yourself but to stop him from using people. She will decide what to do - You wont have control over that but at least you'll feel better about yourself.

Good luck

Answer 13

It looks like he totally gets away with cheating for now.  For all you know, he realized he loved her, married her, and vowed never to cheat again.  Just hope for the best possible scenario.  If he is still a cheater, she will probably eventually find out and find a better man.  Don't worry about him, just move on.

Answer 14

The odds are he will continue to cheat even now that he is married so at some point he will be caught.  Just thank your lucky stars you are not his wife!  I feel sorry for her.

Answer 15

What goes around comes around.  Maybe in a slightly different form.  Going bald and no longer being appealing to his wife, getting chunky, whatever she doesn't find appealing.  (Not that I have anything against bald chunky guys, I like them all)!  It is nice when you see someone get kicked in the knee that has done us wrong.  Only you can decide if it is worth it to keep tabs on him to be a witness to his downfall or you can truly enjoy life and forget the little slug..