Ok sooooo the mother asked us to adopt. They cannot see their kids until the kids are 18...?

Question

Look at my last few questions to know what Im talking about. Its a lot to re type.

Now we contact their caseworker? Its hard working with these parents because they are little slow and arent giving us the information we need THOUGH they want us to adopt. Again, you really need to read what I wrote in my other questions to answer this correctly. I emailed child protective services in the state the children are in to let them know we are interested. It was late and didnt know what else to do. I figure just getting it out there that we are here is the way to go. What EXACTLY should we do at this point?

Answer 1

Okay I dont know a lot about the subject so forgice me but I will be serious if the parents cannot see their children until they are 18 then their rights have been terminated right? So dont worry about getting info from them! You need to deal with the case workers dont totally push out the parents but contact the workers as soon as possible and keep on it!! Those poor people are so overworked and stressed remember they have to deal with some pretty rough people! Good luck and my prayers are with you I cant wait until I can become a foster parent and help some people like I was helped

Answer 2

When you adopt the kids they become your kids. No your partial kid.

Answer 3

I would suggest that as soon as the phones are answered tomorrow to call them... There is a great chance you won't be able to get much information.... They are Not going to tell you anything that is confidential.... Since the children are Wards the State is the Parents and they make all the decisions...

You are not going to be given much information--but you do want to ask who to talk to about a "Relative" Placement of a "Kinship" adoption -- You want to tell who ever you talk with that you need to make it clear that you are Relatives and You want to be considered as an adoption resource....

It is all going to depend on what is going on....  You might not get to know much about the children but you need to ask who to contact to make you position known.... The BEST person would be the kids Caseworker....

It is just hard to tell where this case could be... And if you can't get good answers stop asking them about the kids specifically and refer to things in general--"Like has there been a relative search?" It is too late for one?

Even then keep trying to get someone willing to work with you.... The more of a stone-wall you face the more likely the case has gone very far and after the TPR then you really have few rights... Even their parents wills are viod....

Answer 4

so...............................

Answer 5

Then where is your other question?

Answer 6

Hi KA,

We got an emergency relative placement for my niece and nephew after their father lost custody of them.  We are now moving through the maze hopefully towards permanent custody.  

Though the father wants us to have the kids, we have found that it is best to work almost exclusively through the social worker who is handling the case.  They want kids to be with family if at all possible, and they have  worked very hard to get the kids placed with us quickly.

In our case, the father will have trial dates, rehab, visitation issues.  We have found it is best to let him negotiate through his maze while we make our way through ours.  

Our niece and nephew do not want to see their father right now.  When and if he gains visitation we will support that.  However, for this reason we have found that it is much clearer, and less emotionally charged to communicate through the social worker on the case. We have never been able to get any accurate info from the father.   If you are communicating with the parents it should be easy to find out who they are working with and open up lines of communication with that person.  This doesn't mean you cut the parents off.  You should communicate with them.  It just means that legal, and custodial issues should all be throught the social worker on the case.  

  It is a crazy process.  We feel like we are in a whirlwind right now. But the most important thing is that the children are safe, and supported through this difficult ordeal. It is really hard on them.   You are doing a wonderful thing.  Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

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