Okay, This is a pretty messed up situation.

Question

Well, A friend of mine is well was one month pregnant. About two weeks into her pregnancy, She had a mild panic attack. The doctor told her that she needs to avoid stress because it's bad for the baby. Well, Her boyfriend is going through a rough time in his life and he ended up getting drunk at a bar last night and of course, She was stressing. And well, She lost the baby. She blames him and he blames himself. He is thinking about suicide, she's thinking about suicide. I don't know what to do. I can't say I know how it feels to lose a baby or whatever, But is there anything I can say to her and to him and you know, Like make things better or something? She's staying with my family and I until she can get back on her feet. She's 18 and I'm just scared that she really will commit suicide or something.

Someone Help?

Answer 1

Sounds to me like she should breakup with this guy. Losing a baby is hard, and thinking about suicide is even scarier that actually doing it. You feel sorta like, once you do it, everything will be over and you won't have to face your problems. You need to show her that there are many more reasons worth living for. And her stupid boyfriend isn't one of them. But you are. Maybe the guy isn't so bad, but he definitely needs a good talking to. They can both still turn their lives around but before they think about having babies they need to make sure their relationship will be permanent. And tell her to get married first. A child cannot possibly have a pleasureful life when her parents are not married.

crik

Answer 2

tell her that everything happens for a reason and she and her boyfriend weren't ready to be parents. There are people who have been through what she has try and find someone who has that can talk to her. The main thing youcan do is be there for her. Make sure se knows she is loved and supported and that suicide isn't the answer

Answer 3

Tell her suicide is really (not an option().Is she an atheist??You know) someone who wont believe in heaven or h**l. Tell her about Jesus.This is a serious thing and her eternal life is at stake.If she thinks killing herself is an option tell her.(you know this hurts) but the pain will subside and (time heals)What the devil steals away the Lord will restore>>>>  

Answer 4

heres a bit of advice....

A wonderful teacher i know once told me that a misscarriage is "the bodies way of telling you something would have been horribly wrong anyway", and mind you that was right after she had one herself.

so tell your friend that. it may help.

But for now, all i can suggest to you is that you are there for her whenever she needs to talk, and spend lots of time with her.

and if u ever think that she is in SERIOUS danger, then take her to the hospital/doctor, if u think she really needs it.you dont want anything to happen to her.

in all, just tell her that you love her, and that our there for her. dont give her a reason not to confide in you or trust you.

i really hope everything turns out well

love jessica.

Answer 5

Is she in school?  If so call a school counselor, social worker or psychologists.  If not tell everyone that cares about her so they can keep an eye on her.  Get her to a doctor right away.  

Although this is a situational depression she can get counseling and take medication until the suicidal thoughts go away and she learns to deal with her sadness.  Tell her not to blame herself or her boyfriend.  It is very rare to lose a baby due to daily stress ever, much less in the first month.  Your body hardly even knows you are pregnant.  Something else was going on and your body accepts the pregnancy or not, maybe it was not the right time for her to have a baby.  If she miscarried then she should have went to the doctor to be checked out and that doctor can recommend medication, a counselor or get her a referral

But be sure everyone knows she is depressed and keeps an eye on her.

Answer 6

when something like that happens it's not either of there faults there had to be another under lying problem  with the pregnancy. she needs to seek professional help losing a child is one of the hardest things in the world. If she refuses just try to be there for her and listen to her let her talk as often as she will about how she is feeling and don't let her be alone for to long and in an extrem emergency call the police they can make her go to the hospital and talk to someone.  

Answer 7

My sister lost a baby and it was really hard on her. Just try to explain to both of them that everything happens for a reason. Her body just may not have been ready to handle a baby. And complications are more likely to happen in younger girls who get pregnant. Its neither one of their faults.Its never easy to lose a baby and there are millions of never answered questions. The best thing that worked for my sister was lots of deep conversations, if shes mad let her scream and cry and yell, whatever she needs til she learns how to deal with it. Good luck!

Answer 8

awwwwh! Well that must be hard! Just make sure that she knows that things r gonna get better and make her feel at home as much as possible. My mom lost my baby bro and she was depressed for a while, but it got better. I will pray 4 her if it helps :)

Answer 9

well you should talk to them and Tell them everything happens for a reason and that maybe they lost the baby for them to notice that getting drunk at the bar its not a good life style and neither stress

and that they have there whole life ahead of them.  

Answer 10

honey, i know your trying to help, but as i think your beginning to realize, your getting into more than what your prepared to handle. I'd have for you to blame yourself if (God forbid) she or her boyfriend did do something.my best advise would be to call a suicide help line, explain to them what happened, and ask for suggestions of what you can say to your friend and her boyfriend.  i know 1-800-SUICIDE is a good one. theres a few more if you look it up. use their advise, and explain to your friend that you are worried about her, and that you would be devastated if she were to harm herself. i hope it doesnt have to come to it, but if you felt you really needed to you could call the police, exlpain whats going on, and w/ her family's recommendation she could be un-voluntarily commited to a mental health facility where she could get professional help. good luck with everything, your a good friend for trying to help.