Okay, i am working on becoming nicer...

Question

i dont like a lot of people, i base it on personality. but some people that i think have a great personality dont like be cause im mean to some people. thats just how they are. every year i try to be nice/ignore people i dont like but they end up trying to be my friend. and i dont know what to do besides be mean to them to back off cause i realllly dont wanna be their friend or even talk to them. any ways to make them leave me alone?

Answer 1

There's no reason to be mean to anyone because being mean gives you a reputation for not being nice.  Figure out another way to make it known that you're not interested in friendship with a particular person.  I think you can come up with something.  In general, it's a good idea to be nice to people, even if you don't like them.

Answer 2

why don't you want to be their friends? Is it for a superficial reason, like how they look? If so, You are mean. Do you simply not want to be friends because you don't get along? You should try hard not to just act nice, but to be nice and feel nice feelings toward other people. PS you shouldn't care what other people think, only you should sit in judgment of yourself. You should step back and decide if there is a friendlier way to deal with people that you don't want to hang out with.

Answer 3

just be you self

Answer 4

Well you are young and your are a brat.  Don't assume ever that someone wants to know you or deal with you because you have issues you need to take care of.  Everyone has a choice in their life to know people because they like them or not.  You seem to have an agenda and as long as being mean seems to be your primary agenda, who wants to know you?  No problem on being left along.  Most people would not want to deal with you.  You need counseling as to how to handle your anger and your angst against others.  If you really want to work on being nicer, get some help.

Answer 5

Dont be mean to them because you will get a bad reputation and once people think something about you, its very hard to chnage their opinion. Just simply EXPLAIN to them in a subtle nice way that you have your friends and you dont really want anymore or somthing like that

Answer 6

try and be their friend you'll never know. they might not be so bad after all!

Answer 7

That's a tough question.

Your best bet is to politely tell them that you don't want to be friends. If you're nice about it and they get offended, that's their problem. Don't worry about it.

Answer 8

Just tell them that you don't want to be friends. Don't go behind their back and say bad things about them [like you did in this question]. People like it better when you say things to their face.

Answer 9

This is not worth the effort. Grievous insult is the preeminent way to expediently remove someone from your social circle.