Okay, so my mom thinks there's something wrong with me ?

Question

today i was really tired cause i just started high school so i'm not used to getting up so early. i was being mean to my brother and then i was listening to some linkin park and mom was like what's happening to my child. she was like she's turning into some gothic child and my dad was like that's what she listens to and she's tired. she just started grade 9! and she's like i don't know what's wrong with her.. well right after they left for my brothers soccer and i burst into tears because, well she hurt my feelings because i'm not like every other girl out there. i don't obsess over prada and d&g and i don't listen to the same music... i'm starting to wonder if there is something wrong with. for some reason this all upset me.

Answer 1

I'm sorry she hurt your feelings.

Answer 2

ur unique! if everybody was the same then the whole world would be boring! jus dont be sad ...and school is always gonna keep u tired. and tell your mom that if u did like d&g and prada you would be spending her money to buy that... so be grateful u dont like that stuff ...lol

Answer 3

???

No offence...but unless you've been going into school late every year until now, 9am is still 9am. Now, if your School starts grade 9s and higher at 8:30, just go to bed an hour earlier.

On the other had, if you're saying that you've grown accustomed to staying-up late over the summer...just go to be for no later than 9pm, so when 7am rolls around you can be refreshed and ready for the day.

As for the "Is There Something Wrong With Me?" angst...no. You have three choices in life...be a drone and follow the pack, be person and be yourself, or...you can be lifelong looser. So far it sounds like you're choosing the harder of the three paths...you're trying to be a person. It's harder, but ultimately more satisfying.

For the issue with your mom... Ask her if she is willing to let you be perfectly frank with her, because you *need* to speak with her. Next, ASK her *why* she thinks that you being a self-aware happy girl instead of a trend obsessed size zero fashionista is bad. Before she can answer, ask her why she refuses to believe you when you give an honest answer. Next, let her know that you love her, and know she loves you, but ... here's the painful one ... why is she trying to destroy your self esteem? If none of the other ones, THIS is the one that she will really freak at. So if you're going to use it, you WILL have to have the ammo to back it! (Do your research here!) The core of your argument will have to centre on the fact that everytime you make a choice to be yourself instead of what she expects, she tries to bully you into a mould that does not fit! If she wants a Barbie doll, you'll buy her one to play with, but that you want her blessing, support, and love so that you can grow into a self aware, confident, and HAPPY young woman, instead of a cookie-cutter, self-absorbed, confused, submissive, and body obsessed woman shaped dough ball.

Your next step, should be to become more active...maybe you could join a girl's soccer or softball league? The physical activity will help you with your self confidance and help keep you tone/fit. (It will also *help* keep you centered emotionally speaking!)

Good Luck!

Answer 4

ha nothings wrong with you.

i do the same thing.

Answer 5

WELL IF U KNOW U R OK THEN U R FINE!!UR MOM IS PROBABLY JUST TAKING IT HARD CAUSE U R DIFFERENT AND LIKE DIFFERENT MUSIC AND STYLE!!BUT THATS WHO U R AND NO ONE CAN CHANGE THT!SO IF U HAPPY WITH WHO U R THEN DONT WORRY ABOUT JUST DONT BE IN TROUBLE OR START TROUBLE!!UR MOM JUST MAY WANT U TO BE PRISSY OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT BUT SIT DOWN N TALK TO HER AND LET HER KNOW U DONT DO DRUGS AND DONT GET IN TROUBLE AND U LIKE HOW U DRESS AND UR STYLE OF MUSIC!!SO DONT GET DOWN U JUST NEED TO TALK TO HER!!GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

your mom is overreacting sweetheart.  you keep being you and don't let anybody else make you feel like you should be something different.

Answer 7

just  tell  nothing  wrong

Answer 8

Augh, everyone has their off days.  Just tell your mom that you're different, and that you need her to accept that you're not just like every other preppy girl out there.  

Linkin Park = goth? I think not!