Okay I need some dating advice again?

Question

I have been seeing this guy on and off for 2 years. Our meetings are sporadic, meaning we see each other on and off every three months and then lose contact. I am the one, who usually sets everything up. I have to say there is a part of me that really likes him and a part of me that can't stand him for him just pulling me along. I can see a future with him, we are at different avenues in our lives. I have a steady job and a place to live. He is going to school and working on and off. I saw him last night for the first time in a month, I was having supper with my mom at the local Perkin's. He is now a cook there. He was really sweet and my mom drilled him with questions on why he has not called as of late. He answered that he was busy and she then asked him if he was seeing anyone he said no.

I guess my question is more like a few.

Why does he string me along? Does he really have feelings for me or is he after only one thing? Are all guys like him? Should I make another move, to get closer to him?

Anyone with experience with a guy like this, please help!!

Any guys that has ever done this before, help a girl out, and tell me why you do this?

Answer 1

It could be hes stringing you along till he thinks he's ready for something more permanent. Or more liekly a booty call...if he's seeing others at the same time off and on...sorry probably not the guy you need :(

You can talk to him, find out what his plans are, if they are focused on becoming stable and starting his life because he feels so unsettled...and he seems to have no issue talking to you in depth on these intimant subjects and not in a rush to get you in bed...you *may* have a guy that just wants to give you what he feels you deserve. Truthfully far more likely a booty call though

FYI Toms approach could work and get you a semi immeadite answer ...but it doesnt tell you why he's being this way. Doing this he could just as well date you again to make sure your unavilable for a time ...and then just disapear again! bleh

Answer 2

Start dating around casually with no expectations but just have fun.  This guy is not ready for a commitment to your relationship.  If he sees that you're dating others, as well as him, he'll do one of three things:  1)  He'll get mad and dump you which means he wasn't committed to step up,  2) He'll be ok with you dating him now and then as well as others which also means he's not ready to be committed to you exclusively or 3) he'll get mad and or scared and ask to date you exclusively in which case you have to tell him your expectations otherwise you'll continue to date around till you find your perfect match.