Okay. I need your help.?

Question

To start with I'm 15 years old, I enjoy self inflicted pain(it puts me on a high), I rarely feel happy and I couldn't be bothered keeping up a good self image (e.g. making my hair look nice). I am always half asleep during the day and at night I can't sleep even if I go to bed at the same time every night. I always feel depressed and don't want to hang out with my friends. I've tried to reach out but my parents, my friends and even my doctor say I'm perfectly normal. I can't even remember the last time I smiled, I don't think that's normal, do you? What do you think is wrong with me?

Answer 1

No its not normal. Is something bothering you? It sounds like your depressed. Sit and really talk to your parents tell them that you need help before you hurt your self even worst.  

Answer 2

Yeah, i had the same problems too. I think its not normal, but trust me you can get over it but not in am instant or like "one day you woke up and everything's alright". I don't think that's even realistic, it's a slow process trust me. XD

The only thing that i can do for you is try not to think about it much. Just let the pieces be placed by themselves. Thinking about this makes you so aware and so concsious with everything you do, which gets in the way of you being naturally happy with things. I won't also tell you to get a life or hangout more with your friends or something, coz you have probably already thought about it, but you just can't because of what you are feeling. Try to think of solutions, think real deep. What do you want out of life? Have you tried doing something to get you closer to whatever kind of life do you wish for? You'll probably know the answers, but you just can't do it because of your emotional problems and depression. Wouldnt it help if you just let your feelings go and let it in you until there comes a time when you would realize that you are growing tired of what you are feeling? Talk about what you've been feeling with your friends. If they asked you, don't tell its just nothing or no problem at all. I've proven this in my experience: Telling someone what you've been feeling gives you a chance and makes you judge you own feelings. Its like stepping out of your problem for a while and looking at it using your rational judgement. It could make you think that "Oh, everything ive been feeling is stupid" or anything like that.

Good luck dude, hope you get the best of what life could be. By the way you probably love metal eh. lol

Answer 3

I think your doctor is an idiot. You have symptoms of depression and somebody should have noticed. Of course self-inflicted pain is enjoyable because it releases endorphins which your body is lacking due to the depression. I think you should talk to your school councilor about it and see what they can do for you.

If you want to enjoy life, then you will.

Answer 4

An excitement is missing from your life. get out of your comfort zone and do something you think you could not do or not brave enough for it. Although you don't want to - but go out with your friends..I believe that one special person could change your feelings. I sense that you have the desire to change something in your life- then discover the world if it does not discover you.. be the change you want to see.  But these "symptoms" that you mentioned like- half asleep during the day and you're insomniac - it makes me think that it is something to do with your health. its possible that your body is short of some vitamins. also physical activities, delicious food produces the good mood hormones. :)

Answer 5

You are obiously depressed. You seem to not be getting enough sleep at night, maybe retire for the evening a bit earlier. You feel that your life sucks because you are wasting your energy on things that are sucking your energy from you. Try to doing something that you enjoy that is not draining of your energy. Some people live with depression. It can be normal for some people. Not everybody is high energy, some of us are low energy.

Answer 6

I strongly suggest counseling.  If your parents won't agree, & do what it takes to get you a good counselor, then talk to your school counselor.  You're exhibiting strong symptoms of depression.  There is medication to combat these symptoms, & make you feel much better (happier!).  Abnormal sleeping patterns is a classical sign of depression, & so is not wanting to be around people.  I've experienced the same things you've expressed here; however, I've been fortunate enough to receive medication that helps TREMEDOUSLY!  I was one who went from not wanting to talk to anyone, to wanting to talk to everyone!  (even people I don't know).  Ask your Dr. for a depression screening.  I personally know one exists in the form of 2 questionnaires, & many doctors use them.  Also, maybe you'd be able to convince people by use of this site:  http://www.depression-screening.org/

I hope it provides you with some useful insight, too!  Good luck, sweetie!  I truly wish you the best, & hope you receive the happy feelings you are seeking....

Oh!  & one more thing:  I did use to hurt myself, also.  After receiving some counseling, I've been "self-inflicted pain-free" for many years.

Answer 7

Well Ok, are you happy? Don't look to what is normal there is no such thing, what the question should be is "is what I'm doing making me happy"  If the answer is no then change is obviously needed.

I have a website that can help with this, have a look, there are some links there too.

http://www.dream-life-coaching.com

good luck

Answer 8

It definately sounds like depression, go and see a different doctor if your normal doctor will not understand you. Yes, there is teenage angst but from what you are saying it is more than this, good luck