Okay. parents I need your help?

Question

Okay so me and my mom have been fighting for a long time. We fight about stupid things too. But then again some of the things we fight about are major. But anyways, my mom wants me to go to my aunts daycare, but I don't want to. Over there it's disgusting. They let their dogs eat out of their plates and their dishes smell really bad with A LOT of left over food on them. And, my aunt and her daughter are always talking bad about me. They'll be like she's been a b*tch ever since she's got her cell phone and other worse things. I think I'm old enough to stay home. I mean come on I'm 13 years old. My mom will let me babysit for a long amount of time but won't let me stay home by myself. I'm very mature but to her it doesn't seem that way. I need to convince her to let me stay home by myself. And I don't know how to. What would you parents say??

Answer 1

You are at that age. My stepdaugher who is 14 has been fighting with her mom too. It's actually a little better but it's changing again. I saw the signs last night.

Your mom is your parent, not your friend. She is trying to do what she feel is best for you and for her. I understand and can appreciate your frustration and aggravation. It's temporary.

You can't convince her with words. You need to demonstrate by action. You  need to listen and do what she says. Don't argue. Just do it. In time, you will be able to. In fact, your mom will be more willing if you show maturity by following what she says even if you don't agree. That shows that you have the intellect and the discipline.

If you can bring your own dishes and plates or ask mom to get you some paper plates. That is not an unreasonable request. Bring stuff to do with you. Bring books, drawing paper, music, movies, etc. Try to make the best of it in other words. By doing this, you will show that you have maturity and are responsible. Mom is more likely to reward you.

Answer 2

i think u should try and convince her to stay over a friends house...she is more likely to go for that then the whole stay alone thing.

Answer 3

I would check into some things with the daycare first (as a mom, I mean).  Most day care centers do not accept kids over 12yo. If what you say is true, have another trusted adult call your local child care licensing board and report the 'disgusting' things.  These are not things that should be occurring in a licensed day care center.  (If my kid were there, I'd want to know that this was happening!)

As far as you staying home alone, *prove* it to your momma that you can do it.  Talk to her calmly and explain why you want to stay home.  Show her what you would do in an emergency situation.  Take on some additional responsibilities around the house (i.e. taking out the trash without being asked, cleaning the dishes).  Let her see that you are growing up and can handle being by yourself for a few hours.  

Good luck!

Answer 4

Funny: you don't SOUND mature.

Answer 5

Its time to show her that you can be productive when left alone.  Try doing things around the house: take out the garbage,  do some extra loads of laundry, some dishes.  Maybe its time to participate in some EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES.  VOLUNTEER for an animal shelter, hospital or afterschool program.  Volunteering can come in handy when you look for a job as a teenager.  You want other adults to be able to say good things about you.  And you will probably make more friends that like doing the same things you do.  

Maybe you can do some volunteer work at your moms office like faxing, filing, copying.    

Im sure your mom has your best interest at heart.