Okay question 2 on paranoia in marriage?

Question

Let me paraphrase my earlier question. If your wife is on facebook chatting and u come in the room n she closes the screen and as you sit on the chair she gets talkative and shifts to an angle where you cant see the screen is there reason for concern or am i being paranoid?

Why do women always swear men are being paranoid yet some suttle signs are evident? Then at times i hear " dont you trust her..." Trust is earned its not automatic cause we are married.

someone tell me if this is suspicious or not. I saw her looking at a males pic on facebook. N i heard the sound when u get an instant message too.

Answer 1

No, you are not being paranoid.  Something is up.

You should be able to sit next to her, etc, etc without

her caring that you are.

closes the screen, yes it is suspicious.

I believe she is talking with men.

She either gives up face book and pays attention to you,

or tell her she can have any guy she wants, however not you.

It hopefully will wake her up.

I certainly would not want my husband doing something like that.

If he kept it up, I would kick him out, or pack my back..gone.

Answer 2

Im a woman and i think we are big hypocrites. Had this question been asked by a woman , all the women here would be saying how the man is def cheating.

Double standards thats how we women are.

Brother, sounds suspicious to me. And all this trust talk i agree with you. Its earned. So we got married in 1977 and you go sleep in a motel tenty years later with a woman and i should trust you that nothing happened cause of trust and cause the trust issue should have been ironed out then? Women lets get real.

If shes not guilty why is she hiding the screen? We women are such hypocrites. No wonder we are our own worst enemies. Lets be honest. Your wife is cheating, lets stop with double standards

Answer 3

I do not agree with the person who said facebook is a "hookup site" I have a facebook as does my husband....it's a great way to stay connected with old friends and collegues. That being said she shouldn't "hide" it from you ...way just talk to her and tell her it bothered you.

Answer 4

Facebook and Myspace are hook up sites, trust me as a single guy, those sites are almost too easy for hooking up.  If these are really "friends" she's talking to, then why not a normal email or how bout calling the person, now there's a crazy idea, actually calling your friends!

Its just like when women go to clubs for a girls night out, they are there just for attention and that's what your wife is getting from a bunch of guys online.

Answer 5

You should be suspicious. She is hiding something.  

Answer 6

She may or may not be trying to hide something.  Sounds like she is tough.  Go through her file history if you don't want to ask her flat out.  Also, trust should have already been earned before marriage.  If you didn't trust her before, then why even marry her?

Answer 7

No your not being paranoid.

If she is closing the screen then she has something to hide.

Answer 8

I would wonder... my husband walked up behind me once while I was chatting on-line and I did the same thing with my body language, but I was hiding the screen because I was chatting with is sister about a surprise for him.  He asked me point blank that moment what I was hiding, so I had to show him... and ruined the surprise.