Okay so I'm married and I'm 18..help me

Question

i am 18 years old and married to my loving husband Ryan, my 'family' hates me and i want them back, but that's not why i need help. you see i don't consider my father my family, at 17 years old i ran to Ryan's house to escape my dads anger fit that's night..it was a day before my 18th birthday, my dad called the police the report that i was missing. they came to Ryan's house to see if i was there or if he knew of my whereabouts, my father also came and ordered my into the car, i said no because by that time i was 18 years old and legal. The police had to escort my father off Ryan's property. My father kept coming back to try and get me to come home, Ryan protected me. My father has hit me before at a young age, he was tried and found innocent trust me they were wrong! i was traumatized, and totally scared of him, me and Ryan married and moved, we now have a secluded house (Ryan inherited he's rich, that's not why i love him) but i am always afraid of my father coming to get me or something..i need help and advice.......

Answer 1

A restraining order will do absolutely nothing to stop a mad man from acting on his anger. The best thing you can do is move as far away from your father as possible and leave your old life behind.  Forget your old friends for now.  Your fatter knows who your friends are and will hound them for your whereabouts as well. You can always get back in touch with them in a few years when all of this winds down.

Answer 2

Gosh! Tell the police!

Answer 3

I don't mean this to sound derogatory but I think you father seriously needs help ,,,,  Sounds like he's in the blithering idiot category to me ,,,,  If you are afraid of what your father might do then definitely get a restraining order placed against him ,,,,  As loony as he sounds though you can't be sure a restraining order would stop him if he got it in his head to so something stupid ,,,, A restraining order is only good against those that respect it enough to want to stay out of trouble ,,, The problem as I see it is that  your father sounds like he's feather brained enough that a legal restraining wouldn't stop him if he got the notion do what ever ,,,,  With this in mind I can't really think of anything you can do with out meeting violence with violence ,,,,  It might be a good idea to get a  dog of considerable size that's trained as a watch dog ,,,,  This would at least offer some deterent unless Poppa is carring a weapon to deal with the animal ,,,,  Always keep a cell phone or a remote phone with in easy  reach if needed to call the police ,,,, If he's crazy enough to violate the conditions of a restraining order  then it's most likely he capable of anything ,,,,, //

Answer 4

It was good of you to leave home a father abusing his daughter is jist sick and he should be charged, but i dont think getting marryed at 18 was a good chose your still getting over you problems with your dad, you cant run into something that seriase when your in the state of mind your in now, marrige is forever make shore its with the right one, now you've made that disisoin so lets hope that at your young age you've chosen right, and lastly no matter what happens your dad is  your dad you have to put your feelings for him aside and forgive him and try to reconnect with him im willing to bet that he wants to do the same

hoped i helped you take care.  

    

Answer 5

tell the police...and just remember that money comes and goes but an education is forever there to fall back to(so get an education even though your man is rich) and you never know wht could happen in life....

Answer 6

contact  the psychologist  in [e-mail]

Answer 7

You can either put a restraining order on him (and then if he comes too close you can have him arrested),

OR

you and Ryan can change names, phone numbers, and move.

Answer 8

well i would say get a restraining order and a security system or call you dad and say you never want him to bother you and you want him out of your life and see what he says it will be scary but at least you will find out if he's going to come after you or if your just freaking out

Answer 9

RESTRAINING ORDER.

if he comes to hit you again kick him in the balls.  

Answer 10

No need to afraid wis ur fathers behaviour its all cause he loves u and he wans to see u happy thats it. some how u didnt manage to convince him out that Ryan is the right choice for u and suddenly thinks that is  not right kind of guy for u. So now what u should do that talk with ur father and say him sorry share ur feelings wid him that how much u love Ryan make him feel that u take a right decision and u r so hapy wid that. for more mail me i will help u any time take care lots of love anant