Okay what would you do

Question

My husband and I have had a name picked out for awhile now for if we have a little boy.

Well we just found out the other day that a relative (a cousin of his) adopted a baby boy and they used our name. Would it be wrong to still use it. We have loved this name forever, and this cousin lives on the other side of the country. I'm afraid my mother in law is throwing a fit about us still using it (its her brothers sons child) even though she knows how long we have wanted to use it (she says we are copying) even though we had planned on using it we just don't have a child yet.

What would you do? We still are using the name but how would you handle it? do you think people will still think we are copying, it doesn't matter to me but it bothers my husband a little that we had the name others knew we are using it and now supposedly we are copying

Answer 1

It was your pick first. Use it! Don't let someone else make you pick a new name. Be Strong. Stand Firm! You'll regret it if you don't.

Answer 2

I don't know why your mother-in-law feels she should have an opinion in what name your choose for YOUR child.

My opinion - your husband needs to deal with HIS mother, not you.  He just needs to explain to her that you have chosen this name, you chose it a long time ago and have no intentions of changing it.  Trust me, she will get over it if she wants to see her grandson.

Good luck.

Answer 3

u guys rnt copying but now it's gonna b kinda weird when they hav the same first name, how about u use tht name as a middle name and choose another name.

btw srry tht happened to u, hope it all works out.

Answer 4

use it

Answer 5

Personally I say use it. Aiden is a name you love and it's of importance to you, this is your son and he deserves a name that you two want. I do not think it's selfish or that you're copying because you're heart is set on it you should allow it to be so. Best of luck!

Answer 6

Just go for it

As you say they live miles away so who cares about copying or not

If you and hubby are set on this name then do it

Your mother in law will come round when she sees her little grandson

xx

Answer 7

Use it.

Answer 8

Well did you tell them you were going to name it? And i think that you should do whatever you think is right for yourself , your husband, and baby

Answer 9

I would go ahead and use it.  I come from a family where there are 119 cousins (first and second) and there are so many repeats.  There are 15 Bills, 13 Toms, etc.  You will call this child by his name for the rest of your life.

Answer 10

Tell her straight up we have the right to use the name and that we had it first and that they should be the ones that changed the name because you had it first just because they had the child first!

Answer 11

Use it! My brother and cousin have the same name. If you are that worried ask the cousins parents. Another option is that could keep the name and go by a nickname around family. You shouldn't have to change just because the cousin has the same name. By the time your baby is here they will be excited and by the time your baby is one they wont care.

Answer 12

Don't worry about what others may say. If that is the name that you picked out because you and your husband like it then use it. In my family we have two Destinys. They are first cousins. We call the older one Big Dessi and the younger one LiL Dessi.(even though lil dessi is bigger than big dessi) LOL

Answer 13

just remind them when they tell you your copying that you had that name planned for a long time.