Old friend just had a baby. what is an acceptable amount to spend on a gift?

Question

OK, except to that jerk Slick. Get some help buddy. Nobody needs your negativity! enjoy your 2 points!

Answer 1

$5.

I didn't read any of your c**p, but I know no one wants to have so much stuff to read before they help someone. It's impolite and down right rude. I don't need to hear your life story before I answer a simple question.

Ps. Your welcome to all :)

Answer 2

If you have "your money" and he has "his money" and of course you have some sort of system for paying joint expenses then it is none of his business what you do with "your" money -unless you don't meet your responsibilities -end of story.     As for how much is appropriate who knows?  Certainly you could have spent less, certainly you could have spent more.  I think its a reasonable amount.            

I think you are having bigger problems.  He is overreacting to you having guests and making plans.

Now for some unsolicited advice - I would leave unless/until he proves that he is willing to work on things.  I think he has a serious problem.

Answer 3

40 dollars will give her baby alot at walmart, a pack of diapers, a outfit and maybe some cute shoes. Think of it as giving within her tastes, babies only come once. s***w what others think.

Answer 4

No, I think what you got is a perfect gift! I ran into an old friend and we were so close growing up. We were pregnant together and reconnected and still are talking. I wish I would of thought of the gift card, thats a perfect thing for new parents! What you got is perfect!

About your husband though, Im not so sure. In my opinion, maybe hes jealous that your starting to hang out with your friends again?? I would simply sit down and talk to him about this. It sounds like something is really bothering him and he wont talk about it, so hes starting little fights just to fight. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. I hope everything works out for you two! :)

Answer 5

Hi,

There is no limit on how much you want to give as a gift. It all depend on how much you want her to know that she (and the baby) mean a lot to you. We had received AUD $100 notes from friends of our parents (they from UK) that we doesnt meet or rarely met. It is their way of showing happiness.

It sounds like your husband is making a mountain out of a molehill to have another bout of fight (to let off steam?). Good luck, I think you need to draw a line somewhere. Ask him to tell you what you can do and cant do and you can decide yourself if this is acceptable or not.

Good luck with the counselling sessions and best of wishes with rebuilding your old friendship.