Older military man going after me/

Question

Ok I am 26 year old female, but a lot of people think I am about 18. What is up with this 53 year old high ranking military officer who has the hots for me? He said he has been married, but doesn't have any children. He mentions how he likes dating younger girls. Is this normal? I wonder if he likes younger girls because of daddy complex issues. Sometimes you wonder if this guy wants a relationship or just some hot dog in the hallway. He told me that he got jealous of some girl he was with getting some "whoopee" from another guy, and that he got so mad that he had to pump a lot of iron. He told me that he wanted to play some tennis with her but she just wanted s*x. So maybe he does want to make a relationship out of things. Actually whats creepy is that a lot of older men like me, which is ok in some situations, but not always. If you are a parent, how would you feel if your daughter dated an older man, who actually acted his age?

Answer 1

I wouldn't be too happy. Fellas, don't get mad at me right now for disclosing this "secret", but all we ever want is to get in your pants. Especially younger women when we're a bit aged.  That's it.

Answer 2

If you are telling the truth I would tell him to F O    but this sounds like B S to me.

Answer 3

thats odd!

Answer 4

Why is this posted in the Military section?

Answer 5

This seems like a joke, but okay. If I were a parent, I wouldn't stop my daughter from dating who she truly loves. As long as the man isn't deranged and knows his morals, I'm completely fine. This guy you speak of sounds like a no-no.

Answer 6

You may have a good case for sexual harassment. Go to your First Sgt and report this. If he/she tries to get you to back down, go to the XO and so on. DON'T BACK DOWN! Just because he is an officer doesn't mean he's a gentleman.

Answer 7

wow he had to pump some iron? did he do like a pose or something while he did it like "have you seen my beach ball... It s THIS BIG Garrr..." I really wish to say this guy was serious but frankly he's not. He wants a hot dog in the hallway. If my daughter wanted to date a gent no matter what age (mind you not a minor) I would support her completely. But if my daughter wanted to date something like this guy I'd let my voice be heard. Not sure why this is in the military section but hey fun question. throw those curve balls at us

Answer 8

Well you don't say whether you're an officer as well or not. Let's assume you're not for now. UCMJ FORBIDS fraternization between enlisted and officers. Only way around that is if the relationship was established prior to being commissioned to Officer.

So there's that.

If he's creeping you out, which it sounds like he is...start by telling him to back off and/or leave you alone. That you're not interested.....then start reporting these incidents until it gets resolved. Find a girlfriend to kinda be your buddy and start using the Buddy System---some guys won't talk nasty smack around more than his intended target.  

Answer 9

You know what, that's normal. I work at the single sailor center (yeah, not as great as people would think) and I am constantly getting hit on by senior chiefs. Along with NAPS and random enlisted guys. I am 19 but easily look like I'm 16. I've learned to be nice and talk to everyone but sometimes they just get really awkward. My fiancee is 6 years older then me and we have been dating for 2 years. It was a huge adjustment for my parents but they like him and they were happy I wasn't going after a senior chief. Sometimes they are just overly friendly and other times they don't even think about age and just go for what they like. Just don't be a gold digger because he's got rank.