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Omg he keeps pressuring me....=[?

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my b/f keeps pressuring to do it with him .

we've both never done it b4 but i dont wanna get pregnant.

and i told him tht and he said we could do it i the butt and do other things to.

its like i want to but then i dont.

wut should i do?

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stay with him

i think he knows now not to pressure you
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anul hurts sooo bad i dont recomend it

and you can have s*x without gettting pregnant - condoms and the pill work perfect when used correctly

but if you dont wanna have s*x then you dont have to
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Don't give in to his pressure.
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Your f--ked up so don't do it ever
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I think that he knows exactly what he is doing, its as if he had in his mind that if he asked you enough he could make you feel bad so that you would give in and sleep with him, but as soon as you made it clear to him that you weren't going to give into his **** and sleep with him he panicked big time and began the whole " i'm sorry i love you " buisness, Dont stay with him just cos you will feel bad for dumping him, if he ismaking you unhappy and worrying you then finish with him, he shouldnt have to apologise for pressuring you because he should never have been pressuring you in the first place!!
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well just do what you think is right because if you do it because he wants you to you may regret it a lot later in life

if you do it then use protection its more likely not to get you pregnant.

K just think about it first

hope l helped.
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do it ho!
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sorry to say this but your boyfriend is with you for the s*x....

if i were you i would dump him immediately since pressuring you for s*x is not good and if he really liked you he would wait until you were ready.

please dont have s*x with him because then he will be able to control you even more, dont have s*x until you are totally sure that you are comfortable with it, and with your partner.

good luck!
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Any guy who's gonna pressure you into having s*x with him isn't worth your time.

I know you don't wanna get pregnant, but even if you use protection there is a chance you can get pregnant. Best idea is to not do it.

Break up with the bozo, he's not worth your time. You now know he's only in that relationship for s*x, and that's not what relationships are about.

Go out and get a purity ring, and make that promise to yourself to remain pure until marriage. It will be better for you, and the child if you have one.
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girl you have the right to say no....better to be safe than sorry...if he doesn't respect that well maybe he's not the right guy for you.
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in the booty lol!

go on the pill and use a condom and if your really really paraniod buy the plan b pill and take it straight afterward.
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if you ask me, i think you could do better. dont let him rush you into doing stuff you dont wanna do. only stick with him if hes gunna respect you. and btw if your ready for s*x then condoms are very reliable :)xx all the best
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First off, if he is pressuring you to "do it" with him, then you need to walk away. He needs to respect your decision that you want to wait. s*x is not like kissing, there is a lot of consequences that can happen with it, not just pregnancy. And reading your question, you sound WAY too young to even thinking about it. Just let him know firmly that you are not ready and if he continues to pressure you, then just leave him. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. There will be other boys out there who will respect your decision to wait. And when you do find that one person (when you are much older) that you truly love and ready to take that big step, then you will be so thankful that you waited...
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If you're having doubts like that, then you're not ready. You both need to respect yourselves and wait until you're both ready. If he cannot respect that you are not ready to have s*x with him, then you need to respect yourself and leave him. Boys/men who cannot respect a woman when she doesn't feel ready to have s*x are not worth it. Your dignity and your respect are much more important. Tell him that he needs to stop pressuring you, and that it is starting to confuse you. Let him know that you just don't feel ready yet and you will let him know when you are, but he has to stop pushing the issue. If he keeps pushing it, then it is time to get out of the relationship.

When you are ready, however, be sure to use protection and perhaps some birth control to prevent a pregnancy.

Good luck!

Edit: Hun, if he keeps pressuring you, the only thing he respects is his boy in his pants, not you. If he respected you, he wouldn't be pressuring you in the first place.

You want to know an example of respect? When my husband and I first got together, he would ask me if it was okay to touch me here or touch me there before he touched me. If I said no, I don't feel ready yet, he said okay and kept to what I was comfortable with. I told him when I felt ready to take it up a notch. He never kept asking and pressuring every time we got "hot". He knew I would tell him what was okay and when it was okay. THAT, my dear, is respect.
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dont let him pressure you.

wait until you are sure that you are ready to do it.

:) good luck
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You should sit down and talk with the guy about respect. If he really cares for you like he says he does, then he would respect your decision and not pressure you into doing sexual activities against your will. Listen, i know you're probably young and he's probably your first "love" and you probably care for him so much that the thought of breaking up scares you to death...I've been there and i know how that feels. If he keeps pressuring you into doing things with him...babe, it might be time to find someone else. It's obvious that the guy is only there for the s*x that he's so anxious to get...but you can't give it away so soon. In my experience as a guy and in relationships i know it will be hard for you, but in all actuality it might be the best decision. If you ever need someone to talk to about anything, I'm willing to listen and will always help you out. I hope this helps :)
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u should tell him that he is not respecting you when he is pressuring you to do to much before you are ready,

u should make himework hard for you, be romantic, tell him that, not to just spk over phone asking u if u wanna do it, the both of you could go to a family planning together or gp and speak about contraception, though only when ready, you could always go along together, if you are scared about pregnancy you should go on the pill, though use condoms too for further protection, though u should be ok, you can find more about these at family planning. though u should really wait for someone that you feel comfortable with and will not pressure you
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you're obviously not ready for it if you have your doubts. i'd tell your boyfriend to respect you that you want to wait a little longer! if he keeps pressurising you, he's obviously just concerned about what's in his pants and you need a new boyfriend who will respect you!
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If he respects you and your body he should wait untill your ready, doing it somewhere else is just as bad if you dont want it. if he carries on you should finish it. if he loves you then he should wait. dont do anything your not ready to do.
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You are with the wrong guy. This one obviously does NOT love or respect you. You have done to much, offering alternatives. Break it off with him he will NOT stop until you give in. You get pregnant and he walks away from you and his child. You are with the wrong guy.
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4 get him and if you wanna stay wiv him then use a condom you wont get preg. then
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If you use a condom, anal s*x it safe, but you need lots of lube.

As for s*x and being pressured..

if you have doubts at all, then I dont think your ready. Using a condom will help prevent pregnancy and stds, but sometimes can fail.

Do what you FEEL is right on the inside hun.
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if you want to do it, then do it, there are many ways that you can protect yourself.. However if you are not ready, DONT let him pressure you into doing anything you don't want to!
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If you aren't ready, then tell him no. If he does not respect that and continues to pressure you, then it is obvious he is in the relationship for s*x anyways - is that the kind of boyfriend you want? If you want to have s*x, but don't want to get pregnant - then again don't have s*x. Put it off until you are ready to deal with the consequences should an accident happen. There are many options for birth control, but none are 100%. Pills can fail. Condoms can break. So the only way to ensure that you absolutely would not get pregnant is to abstain from s*x completely. Don't forget about the risk of STD's - he may say he is a virgin but there is no way for you to know FOR SURE that he is not keeping something from you. It is better to be safe than sorry.

So - hold off on it. If he really cares about you and your relationship for reasons other than s*x, then it will be fine with him. If he is upset that you want to wait, it is a good sign to you that you should get out of the relationship now anyways.
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Stick to your morals and don't let him pressure you. There are too many diseases floating around. You are better off to wait till your married b/c s*x changes a relationship and its never the same. If you wait that you gives you something to look forward to with your husband.How do you know hes inexperienced b/c he seems to know an awful lot about sexual positions to have no experience.Good luck
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dump his sorry *** or at least tell him that you're not ready and if he can't accept that then you can't accept him.

i realize that it's easier said then done but you gotta do it
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don't let him pressure you for his own pleasure! the consequences are bad and you could really regret it later =( the best thing to do is to wait till marriage. don't even do the other stuff, he needs to respect you more and not pressure you!! let him know that you're not ready, and if he doesn't understand, that's bad =(
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Sweetheart, if you don't want to have s*x, and you are not ready for it, then no means no. If he won't stop bothering you about it, you need to tell you parents, and get him out of your life NOW. You deserve much much better.
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As soon as a bf starts to pressure you you need to get out of there---if you've tried talking to him and saying no then you need to just say goodbye now! You want someone who is respectful and will love you or atleast care enough to support you!!!

Trust me the ones who pressure you are not the boys you want a future with-after all if they are pressuring you now what else will they force you into in the future?

Tell him he either shuts up about it until you are ready or you are not going to be with him-if he cares then he'll shut up...ignore him if he starts calling you names or threatening to tell people stuff...its his way of trying to force you again! Just smile and say "bye" and walk away!
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