Omg i cant believe this

Question

my brother is 15 and he got mad at my mom for some reason, im not sure what. but he was swearing at her and he even told her he wished she were dead. im so sad. when this happenes he like apoligizes after a day or two but i hate it anyways.

this isnt much of a question..but whats your opinion on this?

Answer 1

I'm 15 and I get way pissed at my mom, but I never say things quite that harsh. He's figuring life out. It will pass.

Answer 2

He needs to talk to someone.. looks like he has some built up anger about something else and he needs to see a therapist to work it out.. cause he may decide to get violent next time if he doesnt.. good luck

Answer 3

he is your typical teenage

Answer 4

It's life with a teenager.  Sorry, but it happens.

Answer 5

you should suggest the family to see a siciatrist

Answer 6

When a person grown to be a teenager, they tent to do thing that unimaginable. Most teens follow the peers to fit in to their environment. They tent to follow the crowd and not thinking of whether it is right or not, especially they don't want to listen to their parent because they think that their parent will humiliate them in front of their friend. They like to be treated as an adult in contrary they do not even know how to put their feet in the life chalenging ahead. However, it is critical to show love to this specific teenager especially that he is your brother. You want him to know that he belong here in your family not to the crowd. One of the reason I tell you this is because no one want to be hated. Once you hate someone, you build a wall between you and that person. All you need to do is to show him that you forgive him. Because we all make mistake, from the small mistake event to the huge one  including the one involving critical life decision that will determine where your future is going to be. One thing I want to tell you that the parent will always forgive the children no matter ow big the children made the mistake. However,most of the time the children do not know this. They do not know that he parent love the kids more than anything. Even if you are not a good children, when your parent does not see you for the whole day they will begin to worry  about you and could not sleep. Now that I am 27 but thinking about when  I was teenager I made a lot of mistake that sometime does not deserve to be forgiven. But when I realized it and I know people had forgave me, it change my life. So just accept your little brother and love him even more. For love surpasses all things. OK hope this answer your question. If not please sent me an e-mail at [e-mail]. Blessing.

Answer 7

hes out of line and i know this may sound old fashioned but she should really teach him a lesson so he would know how things would really be like if she was dead.

and heads up to you when you have kids once they start using language with you beat it out of them or make it known that in ur household things like that will not be said. since your brothers 15 its a little too late now but you gotta start when they are young.

Answer 8

When people are mad they just say the first thing that comes to mind, he didn't mean it.

Answer 9

its just a stage. your mother knows he doesn't mean those things, although they are hurtful and cruel, and he shouldnt say that to the woman who gave birth to him.

Answer 10

Finally!! I am not the only one with an older brother like that.

My brother is 17 though, and he does the same exact thing to my mom..

But we just give him time to cool off, and then he will apologize.

I know exactly how you feel, it sucks kinda just being in the middle of it..

When you have no control cause you are scared of what he might say to you..

In my case, my brother hasnt changed, and i doubt he ever will.

But let's hope yours does!

Good Luck.

Stay Strong!

Answer 11

He's at a selfish age. He is also going through changes. i am sure it hurt your mom, but instead of letting it go or displaying her hurt. She needs to parent and make him have consiquences for those actions. My 14 yr. old called me stupid and was very serious and not joking about it. Heres how he said it, "your Stupid" and my response "and your grounded"

I grounded him from going camping with his friend and the parents, and made him do chores. Other punishments, take the tv away, phone, x box.  Along with a long talk about why you don't talk to a female that way, let alone the person that gave you like. Your mom needs to not tolorate it. Don't let a 15 yr. old run the show. She is the parent and needs to take control over the situation no matter how much it hurts her feelings.

Answer 12

Ah I understand your situation. My brother tried that and my mom didnt defend herself so I did.

If you dont want it to get ugly than maybe you should try talking to your mom and explain how you feel when he does this. And that she needs to fix the problem...Or if you can maybe you should talk to your brother and let him know you dont like that talk and explain to him that he needs to be more respectful. OR get them both together and all of you can talk it out.

And if all fails you can do what I did, jack him a nice one in the face. That will make him shut up quick. My brother never talked like that to my mom again, at least not when I was around.  Then I sat his A** down and told him why I did what I did and how he hurt me too by talking to OUR mother like that and that he needed to respect our mother.

Good luck women, I hope things get better!

Answer 13

wen you are mad you just kinda loose it. it is good that he let that out cause if not he could become depressed and bothered especially if it is something that big

Answer 14

very very very very MEAN

Answer 15

one word. Puberty

Answer 16

OH GROW UP, HE'S A TEENAGER AND WILL SAY DUMB STUFF....

Answer 17

I used to say that myself when I was younger.  Don't worry about.  He'll get over it eventually.

Answer 18

Tell yo bro that you can totally understand that he was pissed at your mom. But get in his face and tell him that wishing death on your mom was too blunt and very wrong of him. Remind him that if it weren't for her that his @$$ wouldn't be here. Tell him if he is really actually sorry then he wouldn't be a punk like that to your mom in the first place.

Answer 19

he is just going through **** in his head.. after all he is a teenager. there might be things that are hard to understand right now.. but just know he doesn't really mean it am sure he loves your mother dearly...  

Answer 20

Sometimes I get really angry too, but I remember all the good stuff and how I should appreciate my life for the better :D because I have so many things that some people don't have.  

Answer 21

Sounds like your brother needs anger management.  He is showing immaturity, and hostility.

Mom should remove some of his privileges for several weeks.  Let him know who is in control.  Cut off his allowance, remove the stereo, TV computer, cell phone and whatever else he has, until he can prove he is worthy of it.  

Just because he was born, doesn't mean that Mom and Dad owe him all the stuff he has.

Better to get his anger under control now, before he runs up against someone armed and with a temper as bad or worse than his.

good luck, little brother.

Answer 22

That is horrible and your mom needs to put her foot down. If I ever talked to my parents like that when I was younger they would have KILLED me. He needs to learn respect because he was obviously never taught that. Your mom is just letting him get away with it and in the end it is just going to hurt him, and her, of course. He isn't going to have respect in any woman he gets involved with. I bet his dad isn't in his life, right? If he is, he must be just as disrespectful to your mother.

Answer 23

Your brother is going to regret his words years down the road, even after he has apologised.

Answer 24

I have been through this plenty of times with my mom.  She gets mad, but then she gets over it.  I pray to god for forgiveness.  My mom likes to put the blame on someone else, always.

Answer 25

Sweety, he is a teenager and he will act like this. But if it makes you so upset, talk to him about it and if he refuses to listen to you, then hold a grudge on him for a few weeks, and he will eventually give in.

Answer 26

My children were always like that to me, tried to stop them but I couldn't. He will regret doing it as he gets older.

Answer 27

ehhh.... ive said mean things about my mom too. its a teen thing...itll pass : )

Answer 28

teenagers get like that.  He might have anger issues.  Maybe when he apologizes you guys should talk to him, when he is in a "low state", and maybe he wont get so defensive.

Answer 29

sounds like my brother. h**l grow up to b homeless begging you for a little moey while you happpily married witha great job and a loving family.

Answer 30

Yea, that's normal. Its just a teenager thing. If it really pisses you off, be like "hey, if you talk like that to mom again, I'm gonna kick your ***." Then explain to him that SHE is the one who gave him life and he needs to respect her because she is taking care of him, and if it wasn't for her, he would probably be out on the streets.