Omg what should i do? who should i tellll??

Question

my friend was recently engaged to a man. i was at a party with them, we were drunk. and he and i did it. he also did it with another woman, and my friend dumped him.

a few weeks ago i discovered i was pregnant. i know it is his baby. however, i don't know what to do. my friend doesn't know i did it with him. we are best friends and it would hurt her so much to find out. i don't want to get an abortion because that is against my beliefs. should i say the baby is someone elses? i am already 4 mos along. my friend is currently in finland, and we haven't talked much in about a month or so because it is hard for her to get good cell reception. i don't know what to do. i already know the gender, girl, and that just makes it harder. i want to keep my daughter, but i don't know what to do about my friend, the dad and basically everyone else! im so confused!

i dont know his phone no. or anything

Answer 1

Tell your mother. Mom's always know what to do.

Answer 2

This is an opinion question.There is no right answer for me to give you, but I will give you my opinion.

   I think you should tell the truth. Come clean to your friend, explain what happened and if you really are sorry, tell her that. This guy sounds like a greasy fellow - but he should know that he is having a child. That said, if there are any other possibilities, you need to find out for sure whose baby this is.

Be happy though, that your friend didn't marry this guy. Best of luck to you.

          -Megs

Answer 3

I mean you aren't really best friends if you slept with her ex-fiance. she's under false pretenses. The worst truth is still better than the best lie. If she wants to be friends after finding out then great, you have a really strong friendship and she can forgive you, but if she can't... you deserve her being angry at you and you can only hope that she will forgive you in the future. good luck

Answer 4

Find out who the bio-father is, file paternity suit so he can pay you for 18 years.  You lost your friend when you conjugated her man.  You were not a friend to her.

Raise that young lady to have better character.

Answer 5

Tell your mom and give the baby up for adoption. Your not ready to have a child yet. I don't mean to offend you but your behavior suggest lack of maturity.

Tell your friend too. The best thing for her is to dump you both if she chooses.

Answer 6

Just tell ur friend and that other guy that u were really, really drunk and that will be easier for them to understand, but you have to tell them some time so its better to get it out of the way now...