Once a relationship ends abruptly due you still seek closure?

Question

If the relationship ends either due to an agrument you won't remember later or because of lack of communication, do you look for ways to end it 'correctly'?

I have stopped, to be honest. I used to want to end on a good note... Like for example, say I was dating a guy and all of a sudden he stopped contacting me...About six years ago, I would call or try to contact till I knew he was ok. Now, I don't even bother! I think, unless he was hurt badly, or dead, or had amnesia, he would find someone to contact me and let me know he is ok. Just dropping out of sight is rude...

If you have an argument that ends a relationship, then why chase...? You will always have that arguement IN THE WAY, unless you talk it out. But if you were in a relationship where you'd talk it out, the argument wouldn't have ripped you apart to begin with.

What do you think?

Answer 1

I agree completely- but it still hurts. Oftentimes for much longer

because of the lack of closure.

Answer 2

i think you make sense, but knowing exactly the issue can help you not make the same mistakes in future relationships

Answer 3

Talking it out does not work. It only extends the pain, invites other side to explain themselves to you, etc.

I decide for myself it is over, and avoid seeing the person from that point forward, saying I am busy if they want to meet. Not answering calls is rude tho.