One day I would like to have a child and give it up for adoption?

Question

I don't ever want to raise a child, but I would really like to pass on my genetics. I would donate my eggs, but I think you have to have had children to do so. Also, by getting pregnant myself, it means I get to choose the genetics of the father.

What are my chances of finding a man who will support my goal of getting pregnant to give it up for adoption?

Would I receive any support in my goal to have a child to give up for adoption? What are some obstacles I might encounter?

Any general advice? I don't want negative opinions telling me I'm evil or anything like that. I know my plans are abhorrant to many, but you aren't me.

Answer 1

Why don't you go to an adoption agency and tell them what you would like to do. There are many people and couples out there who would love to have a baby and can't.  also you could get sperm from a sperm bank, or find a couple where the man would donate his sperm and he and his partner could adopt the baby.

Answer 2

Why do you want to pass on your genetics?  Do you plan on being in open adoption where you can see your child raised or will you close it?  I am not understanding your motives.....my advice is that if you got pregnant you might change your mind.  

I just don't get it.....

Answer 3

no offense or anything but wouldnt that be a little harsh on the child though because the people at the adoption center could tell the child that she didnt want u and that would just be mean

so i would think about it if i was u

hope this helped

Answer 4

PMSL Red & Sassy

To the person asking the question you are sick and twisted

You are evil and um hello what happens if you *bond* with the baby inutero ? and when the baby is born and your milk comes in and all the endorphins to go with it.

HA bet you didnt think of that little surprise did you now

The chances of finding a man to support you getting pregnant to give it up is next to ZERO unless you can find another warped minded individual of course

What exactly makes you think your genetics *are all that* ?

Are you the next Einstein ?

Answer 5

until you give birth you will not understand what im about to say....IDIOT!

your saying you want to breed a helpless child into this world so you can throw it to someone else to look after!?!?!?

be a surrogate.advertise yourself as an 'oven' i hope the labour hurts!

Answer 6

Clearly you are insane. Why would you ever think you should pass on your Cookoo genetics. There are so many abandon children already in this world why would you what to add to the problem.

You really need to check yourself in to the place where you get to wear your pajamas all day. YOU ARE CRAZY!!

Answer 7

I have a niece that has gone from man to man, getting pregnant and then gave the child up.

She is the most miserable schiophrenic I have ever seen.

It is not normal for a woman to do this,  it will affect you, maybe not right away, but it will.  I suggest you pursue something else, there are enough unwanted babe's in the world now.

Answer 8

Be gone Troll...If anything, you should be sterilized.

Answer 9

Your a crazy lady why would you do such a think crazy you should be arrested crazy

Answer 10

Pass on your genetics??? Why ??? You're question alone makes me think there's been enough inbreeding and it must stop now!

JERRY! JERRY!

Answer 11

This is pretty selfish.  Are your genes so wonderful that they must be passed on?  How will the child feel, knowing that she or he was created simply because you have such an inflated view of yourself?  Instead of thinking about your own great self, you need to think about the effects  your decision would have on any future children.

Answer 12

I personally see nothing wrong with what you want to do. I have read some of the coments that people have left you an I totaly disagree with some of them. If you are caple of caring  and delivery a health baby and would like to give that baby up fro adoption that is not selfish or crazy. There is people is this world who are spend there last bit money and try all there life to have baby and cant I have gave birth to 2 children and gave them up for adoption and it gave me the most wonderful feeling in the world. People also look for sergant mothers. If you ever do deceided to have a baby and give the baby up for adoption I wish you the best of a luck and dont let people tell you that you are crazy it takes a special person to give a baby up

Answer 13

I agree with others=  I am all for adoption- because I was adopted and also adopted 2 children, however, not for adoption when it is done because of your reasoning. You want to pass on your genetics?  That is reason to conceive and have a child- and you will pick the genetics of the father- what makes you so special? Put yourself in the place of that child that you may have down the road- if I learned that I was conceived only because my mom and dad had great genetics, I would say, thanks for the love. (just kidding).  When a woman gets pregnant and knows for a fact that she could not raise that child, that is one thing, but having a baby just to give it up , because you want your precious genes to continue is ridiculous.   Sorry that you do not want negative opinions, they may be negative to you, but not me.

Answer 14

Children don't like to be thrown away by their parents.  It's not the best start in life to know that the person who created you couldn't be bothered to raise you.  Believe me.  I've been there.

And are you sure you are THAT fabulous that your genetics need to be passed on?  

I would think long and hard before doing something like this.

After all, there really is plenty of DNA in the world already.

Answer 15

You are a waste of flesh.

Answer 16

It sounds like you would like to be a Surrogate Mother, under that kind of plan the father might be the other genetics...?

Answer 17

I think this is the first time I have seen such a degree of entitlement from a PNP. Sick. You feel entitled to experience pregnancy with no thought as to how your choice will affect the child. You do know that the inevitable outcome of a pregnancy is a baby who will grow into a thinking adult don't you?

MEMEMEMEME! It is all about me! All about the "adults" involved and in this case I use the term adult VERY loosely.

Answer 18

Bad idea. Seems you have a God complex, I want my genetics out there, because i'm so special, that is just plain crazy. With thousands of children out there all ready why would you want one more to feel the abandonment issues (or any other issues arriving from adoption) of adoption for no good reason.

Answer 19

Oh stop.  Its not funny.  You are joking right?

Answer 20

you can donate youre eggs without haveing had children that might be the best way to pass on you genitics

Answer 21

Oh this figures!  One of the most favorite things said is "No one ever grows up wanting to become a birthmother!" and there you go proving that statement wrong.  Sigh.

Answer 22

You should not have a baby and then put it up for adoption because that is selfish of you!!! If you want to pass on your genetics do it normally! When you have a baby you should care for it...do NOT do what you think is best because it is NOT!!!

Answer 23

How about being a surrogate mother to a couple who can't have children of their own.  A surrogate mother carries the child for the couple, and usually uses the man's sperm who will be the adoptive couple.  Genetically, it would be his for a couple where the wife couldn't conceive.  I wish I could afford to do this for my fiance, as he is the best father I've ever seen to a 23 yr. old he raised, my 19 yr old, and our adopted 6 month old.  Both his ex-wife and I can't have children after our 1st ones.

Answer 24

I know you don't want any negative feedback, but you really do leave yourself open to it due to your unusual view of your biological material.  

The fact that you feel the need to "recreate" yourself  several times over without taking any real responsibility or having any true consideration for the human being that will result shows very low levels of maturity and insight coupled with a high level of arrogance.

Answer 25

?????  If for whatever reason you feel the need to do this, have an open adoption where you pick the parents...

Why someone would put their child through this purposly is beyond me...

Answer 26

you have sick mind