One friend. One situation. Help.?!?

Question

So me and my friend after school [high school], went to a coffee place, and I wanted it to just be me and her to hang because we hadn't hung out in a while. I bought her and I a yummy snowdrift [five dollars each], and for about five seconds we talked, until she saw her boyfriend and she rushed outside and for about ten minutes she left me in there to just wait and drink my drink, and then she came back inside, and shes like "come on outside, I wanna talk somemore to people." and I was like "Noo.Its okay." because I know she was only doing it because she felt bad. About another fifteen minutes later, she came back in, and we chatted for less than a minute, untill what happens? Her boyfriend comes in and starts talking with my friend, and for about another five minutes I just sat there like an idiot texting nobdoy, and then her boyfriends other friend came in, and about ten minutes of useless chatting between them three, I was getting aggravated, annoyed and hurt. But then, they convinced my friend to go to burger king with them, and my friend convinced me to go. Then about twenty minutes after another useless talking, I finally got a call from my dad and said I had to go home, I told my friend I had to leave, and she walked me back to the coffee shop. When my dad picked me up, I was in a horrible mood. I never got to talk to a friend I wanted to hang out with, and I basically treated her to a coffee for nothing.

Then she texted me, and said "I'm sorry! :["

and then asked me "I'll make it up to you tell me how.",

and I dont know what to do.......

should I tell her nothing like a generous person I am? Or should I let her make it up to me, and if so, what?

Answer 1

I know how annoying that is, but don't let your friend see that, just be all nice and say something like, "Oh it's okay, but I would like to arrange another outing." (But use your own words). Because if you show you were annoyed she could say something like, "So what I can't have other friends?" Trust me, it happens. Just accept her apology and go out together again, I'm sure she won't do the same thing twice. Hope this helps...

Answer 2

Wow. that tough. this is hard..... well, i would just try to make another day without any inturruptions. Maybe another city or something. tell her how you felt and stuff. these things happen to me too. if you have another good friend, try something with them.....

that's all the help i can give you:)

Answer 3

Let her make it up to you, and make sure she knows exactly how it made you feel. That way in the future, she'll probably be more aware if it happens again and be able to manage the situation better (maybe by telling her boyfriend to call her later, now's not a good time to hang out...or decline the invite to BK)

As for how, just ask if you can call the shots for a day, or just tell her all you really wanted was just to be able to hang out and not be interrupted...don't let her go overboard because if it was just the one time, she'll hopefully learn her mistakes and like I said, know to not make them in the future.

Hope that helps!

Answer 4

Hmmm tough one. I can see why you're annoyed and yet I can see why your friend did what she did.

She obviously felt torn between you both, and tried to include you by inviting you out with them.

I would say text her back and tell her that although you appreciate that she has a BF, you miss the old times when you used to spend time together, and you think it would be great if she could set aside an afternoon where you guys could hang out.

This way - you get to spend the afternoon with her catching up, and she has the morning/evening free to meet up with her BF - so both occasions shouldnt be interrupted by each other and everybody is happy :)