One of my 4 sons won't answer his door of his home for anyone.this is going on for 5 months.?

Question

he will be 42 in nov.never married and no kids.we know he goes to work and he keeps his lawn mowed his house is taken care from outside.we don't know what to do.been over there several times.left notes and sent letters.maybe he is bi-polar like our daughter was.she died jan 2006 from cancer.she was 32 when she died.i do not want to lose another child.we are raising our daughter's daughter now age 12.what would you do if this was your child?i really don't want to call police.but i will if i had to.

Answer 1

Get your family together and go over there and knock on his door until he opens it.Then ask for an explanation.You are his parents and you deserve an answer.

Answer 2

Pretty sure the police wont do anything for you.  He is an adult, goes to work, keeps up his house.

I would try to drop in on him at work and try talking with him and see if you can get him help.

Answer 3

he likes privacy

what will the police do

Answer 4

try sneaking through the back door of the house or kick the door in

Answer 5

I understand what you are saying my heart goes out to you my son is twenty five and bi polar and keeps to himself his teeth are rotten and he doesn't take care of himself they pretty much keep to themselves they seem more comfortable with no human contact and it makes it worse when you confront them as heartbreaking as it is I don't know if calling the police would be the right thing to do I would wait for him after work if possible and talk to him its heartbreaking when you love your child and they just don't understand and don't care about family or contact with mom and dad  

Answer 6

nothing you can do if he wants to live this way

Answer 7

Go see him and meet up with him after work at his work or wait for him to get home from work at his home!! Thats what I would do, and I know others are probably going to tell you he's a grown man he can do what he wants or something like that, well s***w them they probably don't have kids, don't love their own kids, so they wouldn't know what a real loving mother would feel about her own child no matter how old he or she is!!!  But I would try that!!!  

Answer 8

Nothing's happened yet, so I gues the best you can do is wait and see what comes along the road. If anything goes on, anything, call the police immediately to check on him.

Answer 9

If he's going to work, that's a very positive sign.   May be for many reasons, he just doesn't want to talk with any family members. May be he has no need.  IF your real concerned, why not be at his job when he arrives or gets off?

IF you have to, I suppose call the cops and let them check on him.