One of my friends' is getting married and her sister forgot to invite me a lot of her functions. ?

Question

My friend is getting married next weekend, and her sister had arranged bridal shower, engagement party, etc. for her sister. I was invited to all of them, but she had forgotten to tell me. When she had the engagement party, one of my other friends asked me if I was coming and I told her, I don't know what she's talking about, and she had to remind the bride's sister to invite me. Again, girls are getting together 2 days before the wedding and I didn't even know about it, and the bride's sister was like, are you coming? And then I said, I just heard about today, what's happening? And also, I hadn't received my wedding card until just 2 days ago. I wasn't upset about the wedding card, I had spoken to the bride and we kept figuring out ways for me to pick it up or her to drop it off, but we kept coming up with problems. But I was kind of upset and hurt than her sister had forgotten to invite me some of the bride's parties, all of our other friends' knew about it. I was so embarrassed, why would she forget to invite me? I've been friends with the bride a lot longer than some of our other friends.

Answer 1

Okay so you've known them a l-o-n-g time. Let's be realistic here. You are not a bridesmaid so you aren't a "close" friend , at least not as close as you think you are. Not sending out the wedding invitation? Hmmmnnn...maybe they are trying to tell you something but you aren't taking the hint. Sorry but I don't think you're on their "A-list" at all. There's a little thing called the post office and for other guests that system is working just fine. You've been calling them to enquire about invitations and it seems they are being as polite as they could be without just telling you that you are no longer a BFF. (Or they are just rude, unorganized flakes!! LOL)

Answer 2

well I kinda think it was an honest mistake most people I know who have gotten married have so much going on that they do make those occaisionally

Answer 3

either this girl is a complete dolt or she's excluding you for a reason.  I say join up and attend all these parties and forget about her.  get the info from your other friends who are in the wedding or who are going to the bachelorette party or whatever, and just meet them.  the fact you didn't get an invitation to the actual wedding until this week probably means they were waiting for their A list of guests to RSVP before inviting you, which is pretty gauche for them to do.

Answer 4

The only reason I can think of is that the sister of the bride just assumes you're coming because you're so close to the  bride, and therefore forgets to invite you. She sounds completely flaky, and some people are just not good at organizing things. It's frustrating, but just accept it, be gracious and do your best to follow-up with everyone so that you don't miss other important events.

You guys can all joke about it after the wedding when things are less stressful for everyone.

Answer 5

Maybe she just assumed you were such good friends that she knew you would be there anyway.  Were there invitations sent to these events or was it just word of mouth?  If it was invitations the bride would have seen the guest list before they went out.