One of my friends gets the wrong idea... Help?

Question

To start: I'm a guy.I have a next door neighbor(Girl) that is my age. We have lived next door to each other for a little over 10 years. We're both 15.

For about 6 years we were good friends, but we just stopped talking to each other after a while. I just recently created a myspace profile, and I noticed she has one.

At school, she has looked at me with interest and smiled. I'm good looking, there's no reason to blame her :) - but I want to add her on myspace and start talking to her again, but I don't want a relationship whatsoever. In the passed she was leaning towards that a few times, and that's when I backed away and kinda stopped talking to her.

I like her.. but she's more of a friend to me, and I don't really want a relationship, even though she is pretty.

How do I start talking to her without having her think I want a relationship with her?

Answer 1

You should just be honest up front and tell her that you would like to have her as your friend again. Being honest upfront will eliminate any chances of her thinking you want any thing more. Good luck

Answer 2

I know you're just a confident person, and although you may be sooo attractive like you say, that doesn't mean every single person you add on your myspace (good friend or not) will think you want to date them.

I mean for gods sake just add her and if she asks you out then just say no. After all its "add as a friend" not "add this person if you want to start a relationship with them"

and if you never give off vibes of liking her to her face, then she probably will assume you're not interested in her that way, and she'll leave it as friends.

but the worst that could happen is she might ask you out, and just say no. and if you make sure something like that wouldn't hurt your friendship, then everything will be just fine and she'll move on.

But since you guys drifted apart in the past, and it doesn't sound like you guys are real good friends anymore, and you were so young when you were, she'll probably just assume you want to reconnnect as friends on myspace.

I think you're just ovreacting. I mean its just myspace, no big deal.

Hope I helped hun

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good luck.

Answer 3

mhhhh....

just dont flirt with her.

what do you look like if you dont mind me asking?

you sound really hot!

i would not blame her for liking you.

Answer 4

You can begin your conversation with her by saying that you noticed her myspace profile, and you're going to send her an invite to be a friend. Go on to somehow add into the conversation that you enjoy talking with her because she's known you a long time, and that you're glad she doesn't make you feel like other girls, wanting a relationship and all...when you're just looking for a friendship.  You can get that message across to her without giving her the feeling that its just her you're not interested in.(sounds confusing, but I think you probably understand what I'm suggesting). Anyhow, good luck.

Answer 5

tell her straight out you see her only as a friend and you did not want her to get the wrong idea.

Answer 6

The first thing you have to do is buy a new mirror.  From what you have written......yours must be worn out by now.  Now lets look at things rom her perspective.  She may have smiled at you because you had a booger hanging?  No, that couldn't be it.  You can't pass a mirror without looking in it like a girl so you would have noticed.  Maybe she was looking at someone else.  You probably saw her over your shoulder while you were............looking at yourself in a mirror??  Images can get distorted in the reflection that way.  Don't worry about the relationship thing.  She's a child of 15.  She's gonna have a lot of boyfriends before she grows up.  Then again, you're only 15 too and you seem to have chosen your one and only true love already........in the mirror???  How could she be pretty enough to compete with what you constantly see in your reflection?  If you really want to know how to start talking to her  again......the first step is to put down the mirror and look at her instead of your reflection.

Answer 7

Just go straight out and tell her "Can we talk i dont wanna have "relationship" but i would like to talk and hang out as friends"

Thats all you have to do or send her some sort of message if you dont have the gut to speak with her in person

Answer 8

tell her your g*y lol im jking (though that could work) just tell her nicely that you guys have a good friend relationship and if you go out and break up that relationship will end ant tell her you dont want it to end you just want to be good friends with her

Answer 9

Tell her you just want to be friends. If she can't handle it, then don\t hang out.

Answer 10

well im the same age as you guys and i would get the impression that a guy wouldn't want a relationship with me if he just talked to me as just a friend. so when you guys talk dont chat about relationships or anything like that and you can still hang out with her but instead of just you two hanging out why dont you guys each bring a few friends and it wont be so much of a date. she will soon get the idea and if she starts talking to you about being more then friends then you should tell her that you think of her more then a friend and she is an awesome friend to you and you dont want anything to ruin that (: she will understand and probably be flattered.

good luckk(:

Answer 11

just casually start talking to her.. be like "hey how you been?.. haven't talked to you for a while".. start a conversation like that..do it in person.. if you send her a message on myspace its going to be kind of awkard when you actually do see her..after talking to her for sometime.. mention any other girl you're interested in.. ask her for help with this oher girl..etc.. she'll get the hint.. plus it will bring you guys closer as friends