One of our best players has to sit out most of our 1st volleyball game due to an attitude problem...help??!!?

Question

Okay, my friend is like one of the best players on our volleyball team but, according to our coach she has an attitude problem...and she has to sit out most of our 1st game...last year we didn't win a single game so this year its important for us to play and improve ourselves for high school. She is having a hard time dealin and I don't really see the coaches problem, my friend just doesn't like to have to run for the newbies mistakes..so if you have any advice on me and helping her attitude and her disappointment i need that!!

Oh and we have 2 coaches and we all love one and are having a hard time with the other....any suggestions to make the rest of the season go smoother??!!

Answer 1

Well, I would sit your friend too.

Why?

She is missing the entire concept of the "team" thing.  If one person makes a mistake, EVERYONE pays.  This not only gets people to pay attention to their play, but it shows everyone that in a team, EVERYONE'S actions effect everyone - not just one person.

Your friend has shown that she only thinks of herself.  Regardless of how much talent she has, if she isn't in it for the entire thing, then she isn't any good to the team.  THAT is what your coaches are trying to "impress" upon her.

How to handle the coaches?  Well, what is the reason that everyone has a "hard time" with the other coach?  Is it due to the expectations that he/she has?  Is it due to the coach being tough on the team?  I think that everyone needs to look at the reason they don't like the coach first.  If it is due to the coach being "tough", then I would tell all of you to toughen up and deal.

Winning doesn't come easy.  The fact that you lost every game last season tells me that the team as a whole has had it way too easy.  The coaches are there to make sure the team does its best possible, and to offer guidance to the players.  What I get from your "question" is that the team doesn't want to work for the win.  You've already lost if that is the case.

I have played high school and college ball.  I have had the easy coach that everyone loved, and I have had the coach that everyone had a tough time with.  As I look back, I did far better playing for the tough coach than the "fun" one.  And the team did better, too.  A coach that makes you work is the coach you want.  They are the ones that want the best from you, and they are the ones that will get it no matter what.

I'm sorry that I don't agree with you on your view.  But I have played the game way too long at a much higher level, and I will tell you that if you love every single thing about practice and the game, then someone isn't doing the job right.  You have to work - and want to work.  The ones that want to win will do anything during practice and don't complain at all.  The ones that whine are the ones that don't really want it - they only want to play for the fun.  If everything is fun, then you aren't doing it right.

Answer 2

It's not the coach's problem....it's your friend's.  She needs to learn who's the boss, and it's not her.  Tell her to shape up, for the benefit of the team.  She's the one punishing you guys, not your coach.

(PS-- running for "newbies" mistakes only makes her fitter and stronger for your team- something that may be good for you guys if you want to win games)

Answer 3

just have fun

Answer 4

Coaches are there to push you and they don't' care about anything but being a successful volleyball 'team'. The 'team' involves everyone including her, why should she get an exception because she's good? You play as a team and you win as a team. No matter how good your friend is she isn't the whole team. You need everyone else there supporting her and her supporting them.

You need to talk with your friend, that's what volleyball is about and if she isn't ready to handle that then she should sit the bench. I'm not saying it to be mean but it's the truth. Hopefully your friend will see that and that you guys will have a great season. Good luck!

Answer 5

Our team has had that same problem in the past, but we solved that problem easily. This is what you do:

After every single volleyball game (even if you win), have your whole entire team (+ the coaches) sit down in a corner of your gym and talk about the good and the bad things each person did. So first, have everyone sit down in a circle. Then start with 1 person and have that person state what were the good things the person sitting to the right of them did during that game. After the person has done so, move on to the person  to the right of the first and have them do the same. (This routine will help the team feel good about themselves during the game.) Then, after everyone has stated what their neighbor has done well on during the game, have the first person state what they (as an individual) did wrong during the game and what they should to to improve themselves (have the person on the right of the first do the sam and remember to go in a clockwise position after the first person has finished). That way, the whole team can learn from their misteakes and hopefully everyone will change for the better in the furture.

I hope that helps. :) It helped my team's temper a lot.