Only child all my life...16 find out moms pregnant!?

Question

so i just found out that my mom is pregnant and im 16...by the time the baby is 16 i'll be like 31..thats kinda weird.

ive been an only child my whole life and im just scared i guess..of what? idk..that i'll be ignored, not loved as much...who knows..

i just wanted to ask..are babies fun? would i enjoy having a sibling after being an only child for so long? im having doubts....

help?

Answer 1

Wow! Don;t worry- I guarantee when that baby is born, you will be loving every second of being an older sibling.

Let your parents know your concerns however because I'm sure they can reassure you, that while schedules and things will change with a new baby, they will still love you no matter what.It's normal to feel scared and insecure, and it's okay to have those feelings. IT's good to be dealing with this now, and not after the baby is born. This will be a transition time for all of you. You will have to share Mom's time, but you'll be able to help out alot too.

I'm sure you'll have a special relationship with that baby from the start- that's really what matters, is being a great sibling and doing your best to help out .

Answer 2

There is 13 years between me and my sister.  We have our moments now, but it was great.  They will think the world of you.

Answer 3

You are going to have a lot of fun being big sister. My daughter was 16 when her dad and his new wife had a baby and it was a little girl. She loves her and goes to play with her all the time. Stop worrying about it you are still loved as much as you were before if not more. Have fun with it.

Answer 4

Don't be worried or scared about it. A mother's love is an amazing thing. It will all work out.

Babies are fun. There is a 15 year difference between my sister and daughter. We all live in the same house. My sister loves her and shows her off at school all the time. I even heard her once turn down a party so she could spend time with us.

You may find your mother busy when the baby comes, but fret not. She will not forget you and she might even gain a new respect for you. Just be there for all parties involved and have patience.

Answer 5

Heck yes.

My friends brother is over 11 years younger. So I watched him grow up from a bub.

She loves her little brother and i really think that older siblings and younger siblings get along a lot better when there's a HUGE gap inbetween.

You are old enough to be mature to him.

I think you should be over the moon cuz that kids gonna adore you!

Answer 6

I was the only girl in my family (including relatives) for 12 years.  I was very spoiled but not rotten.  I had respect for others.

The hardest thing you may encounter is the attention given to the new baby and you may feel left out at times.

If that happens let your mom know how you feel.

Babies are really so much fun especially when they start knowing voices and seeing.  When you get your little brother/sister to really laugh for you that first time, it's the biggest kick in your life.  You'll remember that forever.

I'm 46 and have a cousin that's 34 and we have the best talks since we're both adults.  That was something I never thought would happen with our age difference.  Yes, she was a pain in the butt at times when I was a teenager but lives change and we all get older and hopefully mature with all the changes.  Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

Of course you'll still be loved! And yes, babies are fun, but you also have to be patient.

Just think of how much you'll be able to teach your sibling as s/he grows. And there'll be very little competition for attention, since you're almost off to college.

Answer 8

oh youre so lucky...I ALWAYS  wanted a younger sibling since age 10...24 now expecting my own baby in 4 weeks but still it's a great thing I hear...and just think, youre already practically grown so you dont have 2 go through the traumatic experience of confusion and being replaced feeling that little kids go through when a new sibling arrives. babies will be lots of fun. I'm sure though your mom will/could use the extra help, and being youre 16, you should. I also think it will give you an upper-hand when you become a parent.

Answer 9

you will be old enough to move out of home soon and start your own life be happy for your mum.

When you have another  baby your heart grows bigger so that you have enough love to go around and just remember that you have had 16 more years of love from your mum.

your going to be a big sister CHOICE

Answer 10

Oh I think you'll like it.  Babies are fun, and you'll be the big, cool sister that he/she loves to be around.  Besides in two years you'll be 18 and you can go off and will have your own life.  Your parents might be a little busier than normal because of the baby, but I don't think you'll mind.  There is a 20 year difference between my oldest sister and my youngest sister and it all worked out great.

Answer 11

I understand, but you should not be sacred at all, at the moment the baby is borned and you see him for the first time , you will get a weird and awesome feeling towards him that is gonna take over all the bad and jelousy, but of course you might have some porblems on the long run beacuse as an older sister you have to be the model person for your lil one, and obviously you are gonna have to watch him sometime, change diapers prepare his food and all of that, but it will be fun!!

Answer 12

i think this will be a GREAT experiece, it will make you want to wait to have your own lol in a good way. think about it like this:  you can hold the baby when she's up and giggling, but when the poppie diapers start to come, you can just give her to her mommy and let her take care of it. You will be the one having all the fun. babies are the cutest sweetest little being in the world. how lucky are you! and it'll be fun having someone to look after and who looks up to you!! good luck!

Answer 13

BE HAPPY , DON'T WORRY

Answer 14

Babies are cute, fun, and fascinating. Yes the baby is going to get a lot of attention but all babies need attention. You will still be loved. Just enjoy your little brother or sister!

Answer 15

You will be fine babies can be fun but they can also be hard to take care of. Your mom is going to love you just the same and remember she is probably freaking out about this also and she is going to need a lot of help. My husband is 27 and he has a 12 year old brother he likes the fact that he has someone that loves him and looks up to him and wants to be just like him.

Answer 16

Let me put it this way: it's like having free birth control! LOL I'm only kidding.

Seriously though, having a new baby in the house when you're a teenager will definitely make you give MAJOR thought to whether you want to have s*x. Your mom may ask you to babysit sometimes, which can be good. And just think, you get to be a big sister! You'll have someone looking up to you, and you get to be their protector.

I think it's kinda cool actually.

Our oldest will be around 12 or 13 when her next sibling is born (hopefully), and she thinks that's about the best thing since sliced bread. Her brothers drive her crazy, but they all love each other anyway. Of course she's still holding out hope for a sister... LOL

And don't ever worry your mom won't love you as much. A mom has enough love for all her kids, and then some. She might get really distracted with the new baby, and she might even get upset with you sometimes (lack of sleep will do those things), but it doesn't mean she loves you any less. Just remember you're her baby too, and she'll always love and care about you.

Good luck hun! I hope this helps!