Only for adoptive parents please?

Question

I am having a c-section because the baby is breached, and therefore will be out of work for about 8 weeks-I have no way around that due to my doctor.

I haven't received any help with living expenses from the adoption agency or the family because I haven't needed it. Am I able to receive help during my recovery. My time off is NOT paid and I don't know how I will survive. Please help me :-(

Answer 1

I have sent an e-mail to you.....and yes you SHOULD as for some help.

Answer 2

There are very specific laws governing what money can be given to the birth mother from the adoptive parents. I think many adoptive parents would be more than happy to contribute if it is legally possible to do so. I agree with most of the posters that you need to contact your agency or lawyer to see if this is possible. It certainly sounds reasonable to me. Good luck.

Answer 3

Ask for help and see were it takes you.

I'm not sure of the laws around recieving money from the family but I'm sure thier is a way for them to help you.

We recently gave our childrens birthmom some money to get an apartment and we have had them for two years.

She knows she can give us a call if she needs help. She is part of our family now because she is our childrens first mom and family should help each other when they need it.

Answer 4

I'm not sure how your agency is handling this but most attorneys will provide the birth mother with living expenses WHILE she is pregnant and reimburse for all medical expenses.  Who is paying for these now?  However once the baby is born, and if it is a closed adoption, then all the adoptive parents are responsible for is taking care of the baby.  You will be out of the picture.  Do you understand?

Answer 5

I would ask your agency and they can probably arrange for the adoptive parents to cover this expense.  It seems very reasonable.  I also wonder if you would qualify for FMLA?  It is medical leave, so I don't see why you wouldn't qualify, although it only requires the employer let you have the time off and you won't loose your job, it doesn't require it be paid.  Anyway, I would also figure out what medical benefits you have through your employer.

Answer 6

you seriously need to contact the agency and find out what help is available to you.

Answer 7

you would get more help if you keep the baby

thats just the truth of the matter...

However I would atleast mention it to the adoptive parents

and see what they say....

and/or the lawyers...

if you dont ask,you dont get,right?

if they wont then youre pretty much out of luck because unless u change ur mind and decide to keep your baby,even the state probably wont help you....but if you keep it they would...

It makes no sense though that they would be willing to pay your expenses while ur pregnant but not for 2 months after you have it....if thats the case then ask if you can get help now and just save it for after the baby is born....although i think ur really due anytime now,arent u?

You should have worked all of this out a longgggggggg time ago,unfortunately...

but its not too late

u can still atleast try.....

p.s

if u were raped,I'm very sorry for what happened to you

but just know that your baby isnt the one who did that to you

he's/she's innocent

and he's/she's also part of you....

so just think about that before you decide to give him/her up for adoption....

p.s.s

im not saying that there is anything wrong with giving it up for adoption if thats what you choose,I just wanted to mention that to you is all....

Answer 8

Talk to the agency and/or lawyer This request is VERY resonable and there are legal and ethical ways to go about making sure you have a stable and safe recovery.

C-Section is major surgery and it is not unacceptable for you to need some finacial assistance following major surgery.