Opinions Thoughts on Daughter`s friend Please?

Question

My daughter-10 has a friend,who we are confused with. They`ve been friends 1 yr now, the friend is getting really clingy & jealous of her other friends.Her family has no car, & is poor-Please don`t think I`m mean-Iam not much better off, &my daughter has another friend who is just as "poor, but has class, not the poor me mentally the other friend has.(her whole family does.I take a lot of her friends on outings.The friend spends most of the time feeling sorry for herself sittting with adults complaing that some how some has hurt her feeling (not)silly stuff, loike she hurt her ankle at the tennis court & only my daughter came to check for the rest of them , how she was-They ALL should have came.I`m getting tiredof being her conselor, even my daughter is getting uncomfortable her calling 3x a day, upset if she`s with other friends, broke her necklace we got for her at the beach-wants another.We fell sorry for her situation, but how can we get to seeing her less without hurting her?

Answer 1

Just have your daughter tell the girl when she calls that she's kind of busy, and can't talk right now.

You may hurt her feelings but she's going to need to learn that acting like this isn't acceptable.  If it starts with your daughter, she can maybe learn her lesson before she goes to high school and is really hated

Answer 2

This may sound odd, but maybe this child does not have alot of friends due to her (money situation) and your daughter was kind enough to befriend her and she does not want to lose the friendship, I would suggest having your daughter introduce this child to her other friends, take her along when they go somewhere, until she builds up enough confidence to maybe make other friends, Im sure she is clingy because maybe she isnt getting love and nuturing at home, Poor children tend to lean towards families that are close, and they need the attention they are not getting at home, maybe she sees in you , your daughter , and your family,  a life that she does not have. And i would also have your daughter explain in a polite way that she needs time with her other friends, and that in no way means that this girl is not any less a friend.

Answer 3

She sounds like she has a few screws loose up there if you know what I mean.  Maybe just mention the next time she calls 3x a day on the third time, just be like "I know you would like to speak with our daughter but you can't be calling our house this often, we have things to do and can't be running for the phone all day can you please only call once a day."  It's not like she can say no, and maybe if your daughter is feeling the same way just make up excuses that she can't hang out with her as often and tell your daughter not to feel bad for hanging out with her other friends!