Opinions of women once they are moms?

Question

If I see a girl and I'm like...wow, she's really hot. Then I see she has a baby...I think...I shouldn't say that, shes a mom, I should take it easy.

Or my ex was a major s**t, now she's a mom and I find myself saying to people...ya know, she's a mom now. That was all in the past.

Do any of you do this? Once a woman becomes a mom, does opinion toward that woman change?

Is that a normal response? I think its just out my respect for mothers, I was raised by a single mother.

Answer 1

well most of the women do change when they become moms... No matter how they were before they wont be the same. So i believe u r right on saying that even though not a 100% will stop bein infidel.

Answer 2

Hey Baby, moms can still be hot and usually they'll have plenty of love and nurturing to go around.  

Answer 3

Depends on if the woman's a MILF or not

Answer 4

Don't take this personally, but I discovered long ago that if I wanted to have the best odds of scoring s*x on the first date, I should hook up with a single mother.  It's as though a lot of guys no longer have interest in them when they discover she already has a child, so when a guy does accept them, they'll do a lot more to try to snag him and keep him "happy."  I wouldn't be interested in them for a serious long-term relationship, though.

If she's a married mom, she's off limits in my book, and I don't even look at her "that way."  I just figure she's got her life together and is taking it seriously and isn't interested in any "extracurricular activities."  More than a few married women have hit on me, however, but not enough to change my opinion that the majority are committed to their partners.

Additional Details:

I understand your viewpoint.  You were raised in that situation and you saw the extra grief and effort that your mother had to go through to make things work, so it's natural for you to empathize with women who are in the same boat, and you have a lot more respect for them than I do.  I was raised by parents who were married once and stayed together their entire lives, so from my perspective, divorcees and unwed mothers were definitely given a lower rank in society.  It was assumed there was something "wrong" with them if they couldn't "keep" a guy.

I'm still a male pig ready for some loving, but I get it from women who have already been "loved."  When it's time for me to marry, I'll find a virgin girl to nurture and take care of, because that kind of girl has MY respect.  I sleep around now but not with virgins.  To me, I guess it's like buying a new car and treating it well vs. renting a car and treating it like c**p because it's already been used and I'm going to give it back anyway.

Answer 5

The image of a woman definitely does change after they become a mother.  They have to give up their past ways and pick up more responsible ways of living

Answer 6

All mothers aren't the same. So how can you really make a sweeping statement?  

Answer 7

If they are young and a mom, then I think less of them. It's automatic, they didn't know how to protect themselves and that's sad. My husband's ex has 5 kids by three different men, I don't think highly of her at all.

Mothers deserve respect, but most aren't good mothers and some just got knocked up thinking the man was going to stay.

No offense to your mother.  

Answer 8

I think its a normal thing to think that a woman is still attractive.  I mean if you think about it, what woman doesn't want to be thought of as hot just because she has a baby.. jessica alba, halle barry, etc.. just because they have children doesn't mean they cant look good.  i think its just that you think of like a "mom" can't be hot.. but the individual person can be (if that even makes sense) and in terms of your ex...really cant't help you on that one.