Opposed to g**s adopting children - please read and respond?

Question

For individuals opposed to g*y couples adopting children. How do you respond to my statment that if the straight people that had the children were doing their jobs as parents properly there would be little need (not NO need but considerably less need) for children to go into adoptive custody.

Answer 1

I've been saying that all the time Tab.  We are usually adopting the children that straight people have had and don't want to take care of (and to the previous poster, most of these children have not lost their parents due to tragic accidents).

If a stable, loving home can be provded, the sexuality of the parent shouldn't matter.

*EDIT*

Dorothy, this was not a debate on why people are g*y but ok.  It is NOT a choice, sure there are some who choose, but the overwhelming majority did not choose.  We are not all stricken with AIDS, have you checked statistics for the straight community on AIDS as well?  Also, sure the parents are great for giving their children up for adoption, but the children shoudl then suffer and not be given to a loving home, because someone doesn't agree with sexuality, which is like disagreeing with my hair color, what's the big deal.

Answer 2

I am all for it!!  Think about it.... 2 people of the same s*x (obviously) can't concieve naturally so for them to go through all the time, effort, money, emotions, etc to have a child, they must REALLY want a child.  Same thing applies for heterosexual couples.  Plus, with a homosexual couple, depending on their upbringing, they could almost be better parents than straight couples.  Their kids will be exposed to and taught about diversity, acceptance, and they will have a running start when it comes to breaking down the wall of prejudice and hatred.

Answer 3

I think if you do your research, you will find that g*y couples are a very small part of the adoptive parent community.  With that said, your comment about "straight people doing their job as parents" is rediculous. Their mistake, and then their realization that they Cannot Parent, allows others the opportunity to fulfill a dream.........the desire to Parent, and gives a child two things, not only life, but a better opportunity in that life than that birth mother felt she could give.

Also, your prejudice against a certain group of people is disheartening.  You should look at g**s as people.........because they are.......and not their sexual preference. They too have a desire to Parent, and there are many successful placements in this type scenario.

Answer 4

I don't believe gayness (or whatever you call it) is right. I like g*y people, i'm just against what they do. And I'm going to have a baby and I would never put it in a g*y home. That's not healthy for the child or the parents. A child needs to have one mommy and one daddy and that's all.

Wow Mattress Money, your name and your avatar really make you look like a family phsycologist.

Answer 5

I think that more married couples need to look into adoption.  My dh and I are working at an orphans ministry at our church.  We have helped fifteen families in our church of 400 people to become licensed as foster parents (some want to foster, some want to adopt).  We adopted internationally & will probably adopt from the foster system at some point, too.  We've got four kids.

So...we're a straight couple & are doing our jobs and doing them right.

SG

Answer 6

i think that if u want kids but cant have them then u should adopt. it shouldnt matter, as long as the home envirement is a safe and loving one!!

Answer 7

Well frankly, I am a little tired of people putting a spin on things that if the g*y parent does this or the straight parent does that, then this would happen.  Bottom line if the parent did what was in the best interest of the child, then there would be no need for someone else to take, adopt and raise the child unless the parent realized that it would be better for the child if someone else did.  Not because the parent was g*y or straight, but because the parent couldn't give the child all the things that parent thought the child deserves

Answer 8

uhm,how come g**s cant adopative?

and some parents die in tragic accidents so, they need to be put in adoptive homes

Answer 9

I've noticed that the g**s that do adopt have a sort of unwritten rule that means that they only adopt children of the opposite gender.  I've seen most male couples with girls and most L*****n couples with boys.  Maybe this is a way that their community doesn't get as much slack about this practice.

Answer 10

That is so narrow minded. There are many factors that go into removing a child from their home. CFS doesn't just go " Yea his parents are straight so they are not fit to be parents."

My advice is to get off your high horse! That being said , Who am I to judge if a single person or couple wants to give a child a loving home. My concern is that maybe the child having two parents of the same s*x may confuse them or something. But them being g*y does ot erase ones desire to have children or their maternal insticts. So I don't know... I'll leave it up to God to decide if being g*y is acceptable or not. I have a question for you... what if someone said the g*y  people that had the children were doing their jobs as parents properly there would be little need (not NO need but considerably less need) for children to go into adoptive custody. I find your "statement" about "straight" people to just be so hateful and stereotypical, and extrememly narrowminded, alittle nieve, and is not informed properly. Kids don't get taken away from their parents becuase their straight or g*y. & If they aren't fit to be parents its not becuase of them being straight.

Answer 11

Sometimes I think people ought to have to get a license to have kids at all the way you used to do to have a dog.

When you see teenage mothers with tiny children sucking on bottles of synthetic pop and eating brightly coloured sweets you wonder if there's any way to stop the world going to heck in a handbasket.

Answer 12

YES! BECAUSE CHILDREN NEED A mom AND dad NOT TWO g*y MEN OR LESBIANS TO REAR THEM IN THE SEXUALITY THEY ARE..THE CHILD NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISION AND TO BE WELL-ROUNDED IT IS PROBABLY BEST TO HAVE TWO SEXES NOT TWO OF THE SAME

ANY OTHER ?'S ?

Answer 13

I've answered this question several times, but I'll give it another shot.

I am a psychologist that specializes in children of g*y and L*****n couples, and I can tell you - there is absolutely no evidence that suggests to me that a child "needs" a mother and a father.  Granted, it is the ideal situation, but two parents is two parents.  I've been researching this for 16 years, and I can say, without fear or ambiguity, that children of g**s and lesbians are just as mentally stable as those of heterosexuals.

And Dorothy, you truly are a dim bulb.

Answer 14

g**s should NOT be allowed to adopt children. A child needs a mother AND a father.

You don't know what goes on that makes someone decide to give a child up for adoption. You have not been in their situation and we should not judge them.

So are you saying that you are g*y because of something that your PARENTS did to make you that way? NO, it was a choice that you made on your own and I am sure that the perversion of that broke your parents heart and they are dreading the day you inform them that you are HIV positive or have full blown aids.

Don't criticize a person for giving a child up for adoption so that they can have a better life or not be aborted, commend them for having the courage to do the right thing, don't criticize their parents for doing something wrong...obviously if the one giving the child up is strong enough to do this, then their parents gave them the strength to do it.

Answer 15

As to your statement about straights; "there's more truth

than fiction there".

I do have issues with g*y couples adopting children that

deal with my own bias, so  i won't address those.

I do however, feel that there's the same loss with g*y

adoption as single-parenting. Children up should have

the benefit of mother and father for a balanced look of

humanity (and no matter how you cut it, two sexes have

to get together for parent hood regardless of who raises

the youngun)

Answer 16

I believe no matter who or what s*x you like to be with , if you can provide a child with a loving and stable home, with plenty of moral and $$ support you should be able to adopt.Some g*y couples have gotten women to have babies for them. If we could get our children adopted and out of foster homes this world would be so much better in the future.

Answer 17

A lot of people choose to place their child for adoption because they did not mean to get pregnant, and a lot of biological parents did not mean to get pregnant but choose to keep their child.  It doesn't matter what the motivation is - nobody has the right to judge them.  There are a lot of people out there who cannot conceive of a child for whatever reason, including the fact that they don't have an egg and a sperm between the two of them, and they have the right to ask to raise somebody else's child.  But everyone needs to understand that adoption is a difficult choice for everyone involved.  Because every baby has biological roots that they will wonder about throughout their life.  And every set of adoptive parents has to deal with the reality that this child has another set of real live parents out there, regardless of the circumstances.   I think we should focus on creating healthy open adoptions rather than focusing on the gender of the adoptive parents.  I am adopted, and I believe every human being has a right to know where they came from, and nothing should stand in their way.

Answer 18

350... you're a dimwit... to even suggest that g**s & lesbians "REAR" g*y and L*****n children is just absurd. Most g**s or lesbians I have ever known had straight parents. Didn't make them straight because their parents were! You can't choose someone's sexuality for them according to your own.

Children need love. Period. Whether it's from a single mom, a single dad, a mom and a dad, or two moms... as long as they have love and affection and their needs met, they will grow up fine.

Answer 19

Children need both a mother and a father, and they can't get that if the couple are g*y. Simple as that.

Answer 20

Children need all the love they can get...it doesn't matter the sexual preference of the parents in being a good parent. The world is getting better and better soon no one will give any thought to g**s adopting children.

Answer 21

Well, circumstances that are uncontrollable can cause children to end up in the system as well (such as fatal accidents, terminal illnesses, etc). But I see what you are saying.

I think people that are oppossed to g*y couples adopting children are ridiculous. Unless they plan to go out and adopt several children of their own, what right do they have to say who should and shouldn't be adopting?!

Kids need parents, it's that simple. A mom, a dad, one of each, 2 moms, 2 dads, an uncle and aunt, whatever. Someone who can provide for them and love them and be a positive rolemodel is all they need. It doesn't matter who it is, a kid isn't going to care!

I wish I still had a link to this study I read a few years back, but I've switched computers. Anyways, it was about the pyschiatric health of children from different types of families. It basically said that kids from 2 parent homes, straight parents or g*y parents, were equally adjusted and mentally stable. The kids coming from one parent homes were the ones that showed problems (not all, but more cases). With that said, do people think we shouldn't let kids grow up in single parent households? I'd like to know what people who opposse g*y adoption think about that.

Answer 22

well I 100% support adoption by g*y people however I don't neccesarily agree with your steatement because kids are placed for adoption for many different reasons

Answer 23

How can anyone argue with that?