Other alternatives to her on the pill or me wearing condoms?!?

Question

Ok firstly, dont need the too young to be having s*x, i am 23 she is 22, both out of school, been together for almost 3 years and its recently come to attention that we want to start having "unprotected" s*x but still safe s*x. She doesnt like me wearing condoms and i personally hate wearing them too, and shes tried being on the pill but it just makes her really sick, she has a bad reaction to it. Just hoping anyone had any suggestions or alternatives to this. Maybe her on a patch or a shot?! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

Answer 1

She can try switch to another type pf pills, consult with doc; or she can have shot once in 6 months as well, or implanted contraceptive. But before consult with doc.

Answer 2

How about a diaphragm. If pills make her sick chances are that the patch and shot will too because they all contain the same hormones. With a diaphragm she just puts it in before you have s*x and that's it!

Answer 3

You should both be tested for HIV. If you've been together 3 years and have had no other partners, then your test will come back negative and you can have unprotected s*x without worrying.

Answer 4

ok first off even though pills and shot and patches have the same hormones they each have different levels of hormones. So she might not react to the BC. Unless she has had a child she can not get an IUD. trust me i know i wore one for 3 yrs. Plus they cause bad cramps during a girl's period. She can try diaphram. Don't let her try female condom, they feel like trash bags. If neither of you have STDs go without and pull out at the right time but its a little risky.

Answer 5

I dont think you are too young ... its not like your 12!! haha

Anyways she can go to her OBGYN and get the ring ... 0

or if you two are willing to spend money on this get the "T" thing ... I forgot what its called but I know it works for like 5 years and can be taken out at any time you decide on children ...

If you get the "T' thing make sure she replaces it because I know someone who had it for 6 years and ended up with a baby girl ... :)

Answer 6

Birth control is pretty much made of the same stuff, no matter how you take it, so she may still have a bad reaction. She might talk to a doctor about it, because if she's not on the pill and you're not wearing condoms, your only other method is withdrawal, which I would not suggest unless you have an excellent amount of control during s*x. Withdrawal can become a bit tedious after a while, however.

Answer 7

I had a few friends on the patch who hated it. It looked stupid, it was really irritating to the skin and they couldn't wear it in the same spot more than once, it was itchy, and it usually would fall off before the end of the week. A couple of them just started taping them on because they didn't stay.

The shot is easy, she wont have periods, its effective, and there is nothing to miss, forget, or lose. I'm not too sure how she would react to it, but I guess she would have to discuss that with her doctor or try it.

Implants may also be a good option for her, its like a little rod they put in your arm with hormones.

There are many other options, spermicide jelly, IUD (like a pipecleaner they put in your cooch and leave it there for like 10 years), female condoms, diaphragm, etc, but most of these are unappealing to me, as they are messy, less effective, complicated. The shot takes no preparation.

I'd go with the shot first but she'd have to talk about the possible effects with her doctor, if the pill is causing a reaction, the shot may do the same. That would be my first choice, and she could always try the patch, some like it, some don't, so she could try it for 3 months or something.

If you've never had unprotected s*x together before, get an STD check first, just in case :), you might be carrying something unknowingly, and if you've been careful until now, it may have never gotten transferred. Though she may have had once recently, the doctor will usually give you one when they put you on the pill. Not necessary but just a suggestion :) (because you can get these things genetically or through other ways than other partners..)

Answer 8

the shot, it works 4 me, i tried birth control but i got sick 2 so yea. and i'm only 18.

Answer 9

A diaphragm or an IUD are both very effective.  She should consult with her doctor, or Planned Parenthood to get the advice she needs to make the best choice.

Answer 10

I wouldn't recommend the patch, there have been a lot of women that had Bad results with that, blood clots, they have commercials all over my state for women who were on that that had bad side effects. I did the shot but it's still only as effective as the pill, so you still can get pregnant, me MAJOR down side to the shot is she will most likely gain weight, I don't know of one girl that didn't. She could get an IUD, like Mirena (sp?) it's and insert. But still with both of those there is still a chance of pregnancy.

Good Luck!

Answer 11

The patch or shot.  Otherwise she can talk to the dr, there are a ton of different birth control options!

Answer 12

If you talk with your doctor, he'd b sure to tell lots of alternatives.

[No abortions pls though! I love kids, and I wouldn't dream of killing a cute kid. I'm sure u dont want that as well.]

Also, this site says about some precautions:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe_sex#Sa...

Answer 13

I did the patch and it was great! Theres that c**p about Natural Family Planning I heard it works but I am not trusting it. Google it.

Answer 14

Im looking into the same thing....i actually got pregnant while being on the pill and i really dont like the way condoms feel so were looking into what else i can take. So far im thinking of mirena.....its and iud that gets put in by a doctor and keeps her eggs from coming down so they cant come anywhere near sperm. Its supposed to be more effective then birth control pills and it works for up to 5 years :) so she doesnt have to worry about taking a pill everyday which can be a pain in the butt

Answer 15

A patch or a shot would probably have the same effect on her - because they are homone based like the bc pills.  Perhaps a NuvaRing or an IUD would work.  

Answer 16

The marina coil seems to be very successful, but at the end of the day, condoms are a good way to protect both of you from any sneaky wee diseases that you may pass along to one another. Some STD's can lie dormant for years and will only show themselves later in life. Be safe, use a condom...

Answer 17

there are alot of options. the sponge, spermicidals, and female condoms. all can be found at walmart.

Answer 18

her wearing the condoms.

Answer 19

try a female condom, try the patch, i could imagine that would make her sick too

but you can also try a different brand of birth control. don't think of pulling out as a method of birth control cos that doesn't really work.. you want to be completely safe in every way posssible

Answer 20

The patch or shot are good alternatives to the pill

Answer 21

look up natural family planning.... this worked for me

Answer 22

nuva ring (her gyno puts it in), norplant (shot), ortha evra (patch, has more risks that the other 2), iuc