Others waiting to adopt?

Question

How did you deal with the recent celebrations of mother's day and father's day?

Answer 1

no offense to people that actually have children, but until i do, i don't celebrate those days. it's very hard. it isn't fair. father's day is the weekend of our wedding. we celebrate each other.

Answer 2

It doesn't bother me or my husband. We think there is a time for everything and when we get our little one, we will be mommy and daddy. I have had friends show me their cards for mother's day and tell me what the kids did for father's day, show the day care cards etc. I am happy for them. But I am also happy to do all the things I can't once the little one comes home.

Answer 3

I am a foster parent, and my family/church family have always treated us like parents on those occasions.  Everyone is very understanding of our situation, since we have not yet been able to adopt any children.  Nobody has treated me like I'm not a "real" mom.  I had a much more difficult time before fostering, because I so wanted to be a mom and wasn't.  Those days were the hardest.  People who have not experienced these feelings wouldn't understand.  

I'm sorry that you had an unhappy Mother's and Father's Day this year.  Hopefully next year will be happier.

Answer 4

I was fine on mother's day until my father in law prayed for "the two mothers in the room" (meaning my mother in law and my sister in law. we're foster parents between kids/waiting for adopted children) and then I pretty much lost it. My husband felt sorry for himself all day last Sunday and couldn't bring himself to go to his parents' after mother's day.

Answer 5

We are foster to adopt parents...it was met with mixed emotions...

we are in limbo right now - we have 2children that have lived with us for three years, that all of the sudden, relatives want (and so  the children were abrutly removed and the adoption is stalled).

We also have twins who have lived with us for two years, that the adoption is stalled on, because we are fighting the state in regards to the other two children mentioned above.

I HATE MICHIGAN DHS - THEY ARE NOT FOSTER/ADOPTIVE FAMILY FRIENDLY!

So, in celebrating, we were in tears over the 2 not with us, and in tears because this could be our last mom/dad day with the twins...YET, we wanted to put on a brave front for the twins.  All in all, it was hard.

Answer 6

I pretty much bummed around the house.  I didn't make and wouldn't take any calls.  I don't celebrate those days.

I know it probably sounds selfish, but I can't STAND going out on those days, and seeing happy families going out to dinner and such.  It's not fair, and I'm entitled to my feelings.

My husband, however, has a son from a previous relationship that lives with his mother in another state.  So he doesn't even understand how I really feel.