Our 11 year old kids want to be girlfriend/boyfriend?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been living together for 2 years. Our kids get along great and have always called each other brother and sister. We continually feel grateful that our kids get along so well! Last week they informed us that they are "in love" and have kissed about 100 times. What in the world should we do? We're in panic mode about any and every second they're left alone together!!!

Answer 1

They most likely just want to experiment. Tell them they may feel regret when they are older because most people look down on that type of stuff.  

Answer 2

Ask them what love is to them.

Depending on their respose, you may need to have "The Talk." If you do, just make sure you are VERY CLEAR in your stance against it before marriage/college/whatever. Be clear on the dangers and consequences .

I wouldn't recommend forbidding them to see each other though, it's just impossible given your situation and may force them to hide things from you instead of being open like now.

Before you panic, remember it could very well be an innocent thing. You know your kids better than anyone here. Feel it out.

Answer 3

why do you make 11 year old sound so young when i was 11 i already made up my mind about these things and even if you try to keep them apart they're not dumb they will find ways to be together if they do really like another and i kissed when i was 11 :b cause thats grade 6 were i live almost high school i was left alone with a boy 2 years older than me and if your scared to leave them alone you pretty much think your kids are gunna be liek OH LETS HAVE s*x

Answer 4

wow thats a hard situation, its very young too. Just say to them, that they should see themselves as brother and sister cus u guys are together. By experience , my fiance slept with his half sister when he was 16, its kinda wrong in a way but theyre parents were probably only together for a year. They are very young, id worry too. Say that they are too young and they shouldnt be kissing, they shudnt grow up too quickly. Kissing is for adults... Aw It is really hard cus maybe they really do love each other, maybe they dont know the difference between real love and friendship love, maybe they think friendship love involves kissing so they do it.... confused also..

Answer 5

Other than shipping one of them off to a boarding school, or chaining one or both in their rooms, there is not much you can do to keep them apart.

I know it is a little early to most people's way of thinking, but now is the time to have that sit down with them and explain any facts of life that they may not be aware of. I'm talking about the TRUTH not religion or morality. There is a possibility that in the next year or so they will experience sexual temptation. You have to face it. Make sure that they know how to be safe. That's the most important thing. Whether you approve or disapprove of their relationship doesn't mean much when their feelings for each other come into the picture.

Make sure they are safe. Make sure they know that they are loved. There is not much else you can do. Trying to stop them from experimenting is a pointless exercise.

Answer 6

Hmmmm,  that's a complicated situation.  I would just sit them both down and talk to them and try to make sure that someone is there with them both when ever possible.

Answer 7

Probably ought to start with separate bedrooms and chaperones.  Don't leave them alone together.

You would not leave your daughter alone at 11 with the boy form down the street, would you?

All it takes is one little sperm to bust up the family.

Answer 8

I suggest you sit them down and have a talk.  They are both far too young to be in a "boyfriend/girlfriend" relationship and you as parents need to stress this fact.  

Answer 9

Let them be. It may be weird but its normal