Out of control six year old, please help.?

Question

My nephew is so out of control, my mother doesnt like me spanking him but thats the only way i can get him to listen to me. He whines constantly and throws fits right in the middle of the store if I tell him no for a toy or anything, it so embarrassing. I have tried following the whole putting him in the corner and counting to five and nothing works for me he acts this way for his mother too.

Answer 1

If you hit my child I'd call CPS on you with charges of assault on my child.  Don't take him to the store from now on.  Do your shopping when you're not babysitting.  Time outs DO work but only when they are consistent...he is obvioulsy not disciplined at home, his behavior is NOT his fault.  You need to talk to his mother about disciplining him not hit him.  You're a CPS visit waiting to happen...if he goes to school and tells a teacher that you hit him the teacher will HAVE to by law call CPS.  They will make sure you don't babysit him any longer, even if they have to take him from his mother and place him into foster care.  The child isn't the one out of control.

Answer 2

My father told me a good phrase which needs to be used frequently to sink in -"We don't act this way".  Super Nanny on the ABC network has GREAT pointers for kids out of control.  The first one is consistency.  It's the hardest of them all.  Be sure to look him in the eye when you are telling him to stop, etc.  You are the Alpha-dog and the pack leader.  Lead by a strong presence more than a strong hand.  Training your child in the way of the Bible does not have to involve spanking.  Obviously spanking is helping but not solving the problem.   Consistency and laying down the rules and sticking to them is a long hard road but the only one to long term success.  When things are calm and going well, try to do something with him like yoga or a calm activity to show him how much fun being "still" and "good" can be (the first few times he'll think your crazy but it might catch on).  He's already 6 so you have 6 years of re-training to do.  It's like dieting - it's easy to enjoy the sweet foods but takes double the effort to loose the pounds.  Raising children is a lot of blood, sweat and tears (our tears more than theirs).  Do as much as you can now because by the time they're 10 or 12 it's so much harder.  Blessings and PEACE to you.

Answer 3

you need to spank him if you love him it may hurt you to but you will if you love him. the Bible says "train a child in which way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it " if you dont want your nephew to control you then you should take control and tell him the rules spank him if you love him and teach him the way you want him to go. he will listen b/c right now he doesnt know any better b/c no one has ever taught him you must teach him! good luck!

Answer 4

if that's the only way to get him to listen i would try doing that for a while, but do it as a last resort. dont listen to people telling you not to hit the child if his mother tells you that's ok, then you may do it.  he has to learn not to whine and throw fits constantly.  but if you do have to spank him make sure it's not with soo much force that it hurts him for a while and leaves marks.

Answer 5

You should never spank anyone elses child.

Get a naughty step and let him sit on it

till he learns to behave

Answer 6

Don't take the boy out with you!  Leave him at home.  If he's acting like a spoiled brat, it's because Mommy & Daddy let him.  It's not your job to raise this child to be a courteous, upstanding young man, it's his parents.  Just refuse to watch him....That's what I would do.