Out of state/military weddings.. help!!?

Question

Planning on a wedding ceremony in the year of 2010. My fiancee will be coming back from deployment that year, so it's pretty much been left up to me to do most of the planning while he's gone. Of course I'll have his input, but anything that includes a one on one get together for arrangements and such.. I'll have to take care of. Is this going to be as hard as I think it will be, planning this myself? Another issue I've run into is planning my family to come into state for the ceremony. How is that normally taken care of? I assume we'll have to pay for the flights.. but financially that may be an issue. As of right now, just including MY siblings and my mother it's up to 6 people... is there a better way to go about this? Any recommendations? Any advice would be wonderful!

--help!!

Answer 1

I organised our formal, medium sized, military wedding whilst my husband was deployed with the help and support of my family and best friends. We had a ball! I had to stay on top of it of course. There were people coming from all over the World, but as long as you are organised and don't turn into a Bridezilla, it's just fun.

Answer 2

As far as the difficulty involved in planning a wedding without your fiance, join the club.  Most guys don't involve themselves that much in the planning... in the planning sense, your experience won't be much different than the rest.  

As for the flying family to the wedding... that's just crazy.  Sure that's "proper," but it's not practical for any young couple starting out.  My advice?  Do not spend your money for this... if friends/family can make it to your wedding, than great... if not, then that will be okay too.  Better to miss some people than be broke newlyweds.  If the idea of not having your whole family there with you for financial reasons is too distressing, then consider having the wedding where your family is from... or if both families are from two different locations, then find one place where everyone can reasonably travel to... even if this means that you're traveling the greatest distance.

Remember that the wedding day is just that... one day.  Don't lose sight on the significance of that day... the beginning of a lifetime together.  

Best of luck to you and especially to your fiance as he serves our great nation.

Answer 3

HI :)

First of all, you're not required to pay for your family's transportation unless you want to but it's not customary.  If you haven't chosen a place yet, you might want to try and find a place that offers wedding packages.  They're like "SUPER wedding planners" without paying for one separately!  That's what my fiance and I did (we're military too).  Good luck!