Out or in not sure whats best for me ?

Question

i am a bit g*y have a few friends i talk on line to but during conversatios a question is always asked are you out....

this is starting to get to me and im confused as to should i tel my family i live with my mom and brother i am the oldest son.i am scared to tell them and if i do who should i tell 1st.?

love them both.

i have no were to go if things get bad if i confess so that scares me also worry if i leave it till im older and say mom may say why did you not tell me sooner i dont want to talk to my other relatives about the issue 1st as i strongly think my family should be 1st.

looking for help want to talk about it try to understand what action is best etc need advice/help to settle my mind.

hope you can understand my question and just talk to me and give advice

like to thx all

Answer 1

do what your heart tells you and what prominently honestly feels right. also possibly leave a note or tell them or let them read it or get someone close to them to tell them but make it emotional so they dont think your chickening out.. when i told my parents my mum still thinks its a phase and my dads fine with it :) so trust me, i thought it'd be the other way around, you never know how they'll react until you get there and theres a way out of every situation, no matter how bad :) xx

Answer 2

Hey I had this same struggle when like a year ago. I live with both my parents and older brother. And what I did was simply wrote down my thoughts and how I was g*y and I let them read it. They accepted me, and to this day I'm been happy. Boyfriend-less, but happy. :3.

If you want to talk on AIM or something my name's on my profile.  

Answer 3

I think many teenagers and younger people experience uncertainty for periods regarding their sexual orientation. I think it is important to relax and not be too wound up on s*x. It really is'nt the final end of human life and there is much to be experienced!!

Answer 4

you decide for yourself who you want to come out to, period.

your right, if your concerned about coming out before your able to take care of yourself you should wait.

good luck!

Answer 5

tell them both or leave a note for them saying _____ and then le tthem read it  

Answer 6

i'm not real sure i understand your question,does in or out mean like(out of the closet?) out of mom's home or the other things that mean in or out for a g*y person? if you're old enough to be on your own, or whatever, why do u feel it necessary to reveal your gayness?(to anybody) even your mom,but mom might handle the news better than u think? anyway, your sexual preference is just THAT! YOUR'S! hang in there

Answer 7

As long as you are the least bit fearful or unsure of what you should do, please do not come out.  First of all you are still very much immature.

If I were you, I would, at the very least, wait until I was finished with college, had a good job and a nice home.

I personally believe that your way of life is socially and morally incorrect as well as physically abhorrent.  Some successful professionals strive to live modestly, not call attention to themselves and never reveal their perverted life style.  Many get married and have children.

That way they have the opportunity to be accepted by society, have a wide choice of friends and, should they so choose, have the opportunity to succeed in business.

Have you read all the biblical references to homo sexuality?  When you do, you will discover that God has a master plan for our lives with the family unit of a mother and father as the basis for society.

If you wish to correspond, let me know.