Over controlling mom? HELP!!!!?

Question

my parents just divorced, and i live with my mom 4 days a week, with my dad 3. ever since my dad moved out, my mom has changed, alot. she has to have EVERYTHING her way, everything in the house has to be perfect. or else she flipps out. im not happy at home anymore, i chose to live with her because before my dad moved out, she seemed cool and stuff. now, i feel like i wana live with my dad instead. she has to know what im doing all the time, shes too controlling, she dosent even let me stay home alone anymore, and im 16!!!!! what can i do?

PLEASE HELP,

Answer 1

talk with her tell her 2 chill

Answer 2

move out  your 16 my mom hates me but has custudy of my kids

Answer 3

You're 16.  Her house, her rules. Wait til you're 18 and then post.

Answer 4

i wish my parents got divorced i hate my mom.

i love my dad hate my mom

tell her to hop off......

Answer 5

You just have to talk with her.  Be very understanding and explain that you what to know how she is feeling, but you must also explain how you are feeling.  Ask her to hang out with you every once in a while and talk.  

Do something positive to show her how mature you are and then explain that she can trust you to make your own decisions.  The key is to talk it out, if you are mature, patient and willing to talk and listen this should work.  If it does not, then move to your Dad's house.  

Answer 6

I went through a very similar situation when I was a teenager and didnt quite understand why my mother had changed so much. There are so many factors that I couldnt understand then that finally im beginning to understand now. Your mother for the first time in a long time is trying to be an independent person and is afraid that she cant do it herself. She wants everything in the house to be perfect because she thinks it will make her life perfect. She may also be afraid of losing you. If you were home alone and got into some sort of trouble your mother could lose you all together. It doesnt take much in court to lose custody of a child so your mother is letting everything settle in the right way. She is most likely very stressed out right now and needs you to be patient with her. Give her a break and everything will go back to normal

Answer 7

PB: i think personally that you should just tell her how you feel. maybe confront her with your dad depending on how the situation is. but nothing will get better if you dont talk about it.... haha my parents divorced too and  basicly the same thing happened cept with my dad. it will get better. its just kinda like shes stressed from the divorce and stuff.

Bay Bayy: If she is "controlling" as you say my guess is if you tell her about the issues you are having than she would not listen because like you said she likes it "her way". Maybe going to a more put together family member and taking there input since they know more on the situation!

THIS WAS ANSWERED BY PB AND BAY BAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Tell her how you feel

Answer 9

Your mom is feeling lonely and hurt right now and is scared of you leaving her now.  Talk to her about it, let her know you don't want to hurt her, but you aren't happy living with her and that you do want to be happy living with her.  Let her know you just need a little more space and want some more independance.  Just be careful that you aren't making it sound like an ultimatum.  

Answer 10

Ok look i know what you mean same thing happens with mine and my parents have been split up since i was three and i had to move to my mom's when my dad and step mom got divorced... but to answer your question if your 16 you can choose who you live with no matter what... i'de suggest talking to your dad... he might be able to arange something... if you need anymore help email me and

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