Over-protective brother! Help?

Question

My bro is so protective of me. I'm 15 and he's 18. He's always on my case about where I've been and if I go to my boyfriends house, I have to lie to him and say I'm going to my friends house. He used to be over-protective in school too, like whenever a guy came up to me and started talking to me and he was there, he would come over and stand in front of me. He thinks that I'm so innocent and won't accept the fact that I'm growing up. Why is he like this and what can I do to get him off my case?

Answer 1

He's like that because he doesn't want you to get hurt by some random guy.  I am also an older brother and I've already seen things happen to my younger siblings that i wish i could have prevented for them.  He just wants to help you from making some wrong decisions. The best thing to do is not lie to him when you go out to your boyfriends. You have to tell him straight and if that means you two are going to get into and argument then it just has to happen and eventually he'll just not want to get involved no more because now your retaliating and he's not going to want to have to hear you yelling at him. Its like reverse psychology. just like hes making you feel out of place now, you have to make him feel out of place by always being next to you and snooping around in your business.

hope this helps.

Answer 2

You should be really thankful you have a brother that cares about you. Like just about everyone else on her has said, he is just watching out for you and he knows how guys get. Is your boyfriend way older than you? Maybe he is just being cautious because he doesn't want you to get into a bad situation. Don't lie about your location either. God forbid something should happen to you and you are with your boyfriend when everyone thinks you are at "so and so's house". How would anyone know where you are? You can't stop your brother from loving you. If you hate his protection that much then tell him, but I doubt that will make him stop.

Answer 3

he is just watching out for you , so dont be mean about it , just say , listen , I am growing up now I am a big girl and I can take care of myself I promise you I wont get into trouble so dont worry about me ! , or something like that .

Answer 4

You should sit down and talk to him.  Tell him what he can and can't do.  Be happy that your brother loves you and he just doing this to protect you.  I have 5 brothers they do this all the time.  Trust me when you get hurt your brother will have your back.

Answer 5

I know exactly how your brother feels.. I have 2 little sisters that are 17 and 16 and its unbelievable that they are that age when the last time i remember they were 10 and 11... He just doesn't want you to grow up TOO fast... Teenage pregenancy is getting higher... thats not the only thing he is worried about tho... alot of teenage boys are looking to take advantage of any girl and ultimately end up breaking hearts... He just doesnt want you to be hurt like i dont want any of my little sisters being hurt over a guy... Like I tell my sisters if you have a problem with ANYONE i will freakin handle it... He just loves you too much and would sacrifice himself for you... Thats how brotherly love is... I love my sisters to death and i couldnt even fathom the thought of them being raped or hurt in any way....

oh and just tell him that he will be the first person you call if you have any problems... thats all he wants to hear

hope this helps sry so long >_<

Answer 6

One day you will be thankful for that. He is a teenage boy so he KNOWS what teenage boys are thinking about! Be grateful he cares for you.

Answer 7

My brother is exactly the same way with me! But their is nothing you can do..your brother just loves you and doesn't want to see any harm happen to you. He wont ever want to accept the fact that your growing up, but eventually he will. :)

Answer 8

Say: It's none of your business, bro.

Answer 9

"A" 1st and for most he loves you. Your are very lucky to have a brother to look out for you like that. In time he will back down and treat you like a grown up, but for right now you are his baby sister and looking out for you (he feels) is his job. Time will take care of this for you.  

Answer 10

Well whatever you do don't be mean and say stuff like Back off, You need to know that I'm growing up. Well isn't your bro going to collage? If he is you won't have to worry about it. but if he isn't then tell him he's being a little over protective. My bro is that way too. What I do is I try to get my bro to know him a little, so he feels a little more trustworthy. Good Luck!:)

Answer 11

He is like this because he loves you and doesn't want to see you get hurt. The only way to deal with this is to talk to him about it. Let him know that you love him and that you understand he is just trying to pro tect you but you need your space

Answer 12

Simple, tell him "You are not the boss of me-Mom & Dad are".....then go to Mom and Dad and tell them brother is taking watching over you way too far and is at this point smothering you.

Do your parents know you have a boyfriend? Are they okay with it? If so, then why lie to your bro...don't. if he starts to give you grief say to him " Tell it to Mom, not me, she's cool with it"....and go about your business.

You only give power to people by letting them.

And sometimes you have to say "My life-my mistakes if I make 'em"

Good luck.

Answer 13

he loves you that's why he's over protective...

i don't have a brother but ALL  my friends are overprotective of me to the point where they threaten  not talk to me if i go out with guys they don't trust, they even told one of my boyfriends to stay away from me... i know they were right about every guy they didn't want me to date, but for god's sake it was too much, so i talked to them and told them i appreciated  that they cared, but i smart enough to make my own decisions, that if i decide to do something they should trust that i have a good reason for it, and that i wanna live my own life and learn from my own mistakes, and if they really loved me and wanted me to grow they should give me some space... and it worked, as long as  i don't tell them every single detail from my love life they don't flip out

you could try doing the same

good luck

Answer 14

The day may come when you need your brother's protection. Stop complaining and consider yourself lucky to have a brother that cares about you.