Over protective mom

Question

my mom won't let me go to my friend's house just cuz he's 20 and in college....I'm 15 I'm not a baby he's a nice guy what's the big deal?? she let us go to the mall and the movies and out to dinner once reluctantly but now she says I can't ever talk to him again why not???

And she got all pissed cuz he sent me a letter tellinng me that he loves and cares for me. and wants to make me feel good ..she shouldn't have read it

she even let him pick me up from school so why doesn't she trust me to go to his house

he's one of my only true friends ppl at school don't like me and he makes me feel better when he holds me and talks to me he's really sweet she never understands anything

btw I asked this b4 but didn't get much help... It didn't seem like anyone understood

Answer 1

your mom is not over protective.

any mother wouldn't like there 15 year old daughter hanging out with a twenty year old! is that a serious question. .the reason is called s*x . and very illegal . . even if this is just a guy that you trust or whatever your parents will never see it that way. .  i'm your age and i know that.  

Answer 2

I'm sorry but I have to agree with your mom.  Believe me I have been in your shoes though not with that large of an age difference, my high school boyfriend and I had a little over 3 years age difference.  My parents allowed it, I wish they wouldn't have.  Sometimes I wonder what they were thinking.  I guess they just thought the more they tried to get us apart the closer we would have been.

Your mom has your best interest at heart.  She isn't just trying to be mean or ruin your life.  Maybe you will have to learn that lesson on your own.  Trust me I bet 5 or 6 years you will completely understand what I am saying.  

Answer 3

The reason why your mother doesn't want you to spend time alone with this man is because she is wise.  There is no reason why a 20 year old man should be 'hanging out' with a 15 year old girl alone, unless he has alterior motives in mind with you.  

If I were you I would chalk this up as one of those times where right now you think your mother is very, very wrong but you're not quite sure why.  As you get older, especially as you have children of your own, you will begin to slowly understand why she is standing her ground on this one.  

Trust your mother and don't fight it.  Otherwise, you will be posting here in about three months saying, 'I think I might be pregnant.  The father won't talk to me anymore...'

Do you want to be that poster?

Answer 4

I was just like you when I was 15 and had a mum just like that. I agree she shouldn't have read your letter but you have to remember your mum is trying to protect you. Try to do what she says, ask her why she doesn't like him and doesn't want you to talk to him. You can't just expect her trust, both you and the guy have to earn it