She seemed like a really nice person and I really liked spending time with her. We became super close to the point we were hanging out every day while our kids were in school. Then I got to know her kids. She does not discipline her kids. She warns them. Again and again. They are horribly behaved. I've never met kids like these. My own children can't stand being around them because they are so out of control. I've avoided her all summer because I can't handle her kids. And she just makes excuses for their behavior. It's always that they are on allergy medicine and it causes them to misbehave. Allergy medicine doesn't cause pathological lying to my knowledge. In addition, she gets jealous of my other friends and talks bad about them. I defend my friends politely, and she just justifies what she says with a omment like, "Well, I'm a good judge of character. I know." In addition, she doesn't like when my kids have other friends. Her son asked my son if he was his best friend. my son was honest and stated that he had a best friend. This woman yelled at my son and said it was messed up to say that, because her son should be his best friend. (I wasn't there. My son told me about it.) Same with my daughter. When my daughter hangs out with someone else she makes a big deal out of it. Like my little girl is betraying her. Anyhow, I'm not sure if there's a remedy for this. I don't think it's fair to my kids to expose them because it causes them misery. Also, I wouldn't want to risk these kids influencing mine. However, she is my friend. Can I say you can come over just leave the brats at home? When she's not dictating who I should befriend or letting her kids walk all over her and destroy my house, or when she's not critisizing me she's nice. That sounds bad, but we all have our faults. Or do I just recognize that her kids are part of her and end the friendship? And how? Her kids go to the same school as mine so it would be awkward. What would you do?
Tags: