Overprotective mom.......?

Question

my mom never lets me do anything or go to anyone's house not even my bf's she's scared for me to go for a walk alone and she spies on me and my bf....one day she let us go to the mall....and it turns out she was there too.....she says it's becasue she doesn't want someone to do anything to me....but idk why she's being like this no one would want me anyways.....even if someone could do something to me they wouldn't look twice....so why does she swear something terrible is gonna happen to me???

Answer 1

my mum used to be the same, i never got a reason i could agree with as to why she was soooo bad but just ask her its worth a try, when i started talking to my mum an stopped shouting and sulking etc to get my own way (cos it wasn't working) i started talking to her and she said that cos i did that it made her feel better cos i was notifying her, just try talking. good luck :)

Answer 2

My first comment is you are very down on yourself and your self image. The way a person looks has nothing to do with if something bad can happen to them or not. My guess is you are in your early teens and you want to have more freedom and your mom is having a hard time letting you go. On her side it is very hard these days to have a child especially a girl and it sounds like she is just trying to protect you from harm. That being said, you need to sit down with her and address her like an adult. Tell her how much you appreciate that she loves you and wants to protect you but bad things can happen anywhere whether she is there or not is not the issue. Tell her that you need her to show you that she trusts you and you need the opportunity to show her that she can trust you. Be where you are saying that you are, checking in with her and obeying your curfew is the best ways to show her you are old enough to have some freedom. Lastly, you really should try to work on your selfesteem. The way we see ourself is not the way others see us. Some of us were blessed early on with good looks, money etc and others of us had to wait until after puberty to bloom into the young women that we have become. Neither is better, NO one is better than anyone else, material things and "beauty" can be the only things that some ever will have but true substance and a heart well that can not be bought. You hang in there!  

Answer 3

I guess you would call me an overprotective mom as well!  I am also worried that something will happen to my 12 year old daughter.  

What you need to remember is that even though she may trust you, she doesn't trust everyone else.  It only takes a split second for something bad to happen and there are a lot of freaks out there.  She just loves you and wants to keep you safe.

Answer 4

In a few years time you'll be happy your mother is so protective. In the meantime she ain't gonna change so you're gonna have to suck it up and deal with it.

Answer 5

Because she is your mom and she loves you very much..I have a 7 year old now and I tell her all the time to get use to me being up her butt her whole life, because that is where I am going to be. There are A LOT of crazy people out there, it doesn't matter what you think of yourself. They don't care what you look like, or how you feel or anything else. As far as your bf goes, I wouldn't let you be alone with him either. You are both probably going through puberty and she doesn't want to raise any more children.

Do what your mom says--she knows best and is only out to protect you because she loves you and only wants what is best for you- your mind/brain is not fully developed yet and in no way know what is best for yourself. trust me, I was your age once and I am a mother now.