Overprotective mother.....but I am 26!?

Question

Here is the issue...........

I still live at home. Due to financial reasons, I am unable to move out of my parent's home. We do get along incredibly well. I sustain myself financially and even pay rent to them.

I am dating a great guy who is actually interested in me, well that is what I gather as of now. I hardly, if ever let them know who I am dating because to date the men who I have dated have not been individuals I've stayed with.

I've let them know. My mother primarily is the one with the problem. I've told her about him and she is incredibly angry. She will not speak to me and will not even ask me anything about him. She has no interest whatsoever. She is just angry, I can see it in her face.

I already sat down with her and I told her that I am just getting to know him. She told me she is afraid that he may kidnap me or hurt me or be mean to me. I keep telling her that she does not need to worry as I never give out my number unless I am sure.

I just feel she will not come around. I tell her how does she expect me to eventually get married if she does not want me to get out and meet people. That eventually she will have to let go as I will have to let go of them too.

I am a grown woman for christ's sake.

Answer 1

You need to move out and get your own place so that you can demonstrate to the world that you are responsible and independent and able to make sound decisions in your own love life.  If you are still needing her as crutch, of course she will still view you someone to worry over, because of your situation.  

Answer 2

I understand completely, my mom is very over protective too. It hard to make them understand your point of view and not to make them mad. If you think he is a really nice guy then do what your heart tells you to do. But there could more reasons why she is being like that. So do your research on that guy. If you hear nothing but good things than tell her. Always be honest and maybe she will come around.  

Answer 3

"I am a grown woman for christ's sake."

There is your answer, to your mother you will still be her baby.

All you can do is to live your life the way you see fit, and hope in time that your mother see's that you have made the right choices for you.