PARENTS SPLITTING UP!!!!!!!?????????? PLEASE HELP!!!! 15 POINTS FOR BEST ANSWER!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

2 years ago my dad punched my mom in the nose at about 5am and the police came and my grandad it was all very sad but he apologised and came back and that was that. But since then hes been a jerk to my mom and my mom always trash talks him. Hes not an abuser believe me I'm sure. but they got to therapy and sometimes they're great and sometimes i cry myself to sleep. Can anyone tell me if you think they're getting divorced?

Answer 1

Listen...what ever they do is good for you.  You do not want to be in a house where there is violence and verbal abuse.  You will think that is the way to handle things.  

Your dad is an abuser...and so is your mom.  Just different ways.  It is good they are going to therapy...they are willing to try to work it out...so they must care but have lost their way.  

I am sorry you are  hurting honey.  Parents marriages are their business even if you are in the middle of it.  

Talk to them and tell them how you feel.  Maybe they can fight when you aren't home and tone it down if they know how badly you feel.  

Better yet....ask if you can go to therapy with them so you can talk too...you feel you have some things to say about all this too.  You can tell them everything in therapy and maybe get some help.  OK?

I am praying for you honey...you don't deserve this.  Your parents both love you I am sure...just don't take sides and don't judge them.  Life is hard and they need to do some growing up and settle things. Call a friend or go see someone when things get bad.  Call your grandmother or an Aunt or Uncle when they start to fight and talk about it with someone you trust.  

Please take one day at a time...and tell them you want therapy too!

Answer 2

Truthfully, even though they are going thru the motions of trying to repair their marriage, its obvious that theyre still worlds apart. Sometimes this happens and is really no ones fault. Unfortunately, they may be staying together for reasons they shouldnt and waiting til a better time to do it. Someimes a family is better off if the parents do part ways for awhile. This isnt your fault and theres probably nothing you can do to save it other then letting them know your there for either of them. One thing for sure; something is goig to happen here; marriage saved or divorce. Good luck

Answer 3

not too sure, they could be because there is always a chance but in this case it is more of a chance. they might not, i mean my mom and dad shout at each other lots and once my mom chucked beer over him and they are still together.

even if they do, i know you will be sad, but you have got to remember that it isnt your fault and they will still love you exactly the same.

Answer 4

I don't want you to think that they are splitting up, because that cant be good for you at the moment. You already have to deal with knowing that your dad punched your mom, and that's bad enough. Well, i think that if your dad gets the correct anger management, and he learns to control his anger, and your mom learns to control hers as well, then they could possibly still have a shot at this marriage. Think positively for the moment. I know its hard, but trust me, its for your own good. With school just around the corner, you cant afford to be all stressed out on the first day.No one can. You'll be in my prayers tonight also, God bless, and take care.

Answer 5

How awful that you're in this situation.

Abuse can take on many forms, not just physical.  Your dad being a "jerk" and your mom "trash talking" are forms of abuse too.

Only your parents can tell you if they're getting divorced.  Can you talk to them?  Maybe you can ask your grandad to help you out.  They need to understand how much they're hurting you.

Good luck.

Answer 6

There are worse things than your folks getting a divorce...sounds to me like it'd be a good thing if they did!

Answer 7

Im really sorry to hear what you have gone through. Parents marriages are very difficult to understand. I have been through my parents splitting up and my Mum and step dad splitting up its not very nice at all. But now Iam a wife and I have realised that its very difficult and hardwork to be married and have a family. Its possible that they could work this through but on the otherhand divorce is also possible.

Could you sit down and talk to your parents about your worries ?

If not maybe you should get some counselling to help you understand what they are going through.

They both love you very much and neither will want to leave, but seriously parents should not stay together for the children. they are making you and themselves very unhappy.

I wish you and your family all the best

take care

Answer 8

sounds like they are just having problems, believe me no relationship is plain sailing all the time! just talk to your mum about it or whoever your closest to in the family because im sure they will answer and reasure you about everything. I have cried myself to sleep before too, (over a death though) and it is much easier if you let it out and talk to someone, trust me it doesnt get easier if you keep it to yourself!:)

Answer 9

They should split up and hitting someone in the nose does mean he is an abuser, you never hit anyone esp a man hitting a woman. They do need to split at least for a while, and apologies mean nothing if they aren't heartfelt. Divorce, if it happens, isn't the end of the world, and in this case, it sounds like it's best for everyone concerned. Also, the most points that can be awarded is ten, just an FYI.

Answer 10

honestly if your parents want to be happy, but aern't getting along, a divorce may be an option. Every couple fights, trust me, and I'm sure your parents don't want to bring you into the middle of it. Just try to stay strong!

Answer 11

Doesn't sound like they're happy, but it doesn't sound like they're splitting up either!!!

Answer 12

LOL 'He's not an abuser', 'hes been a jerk to my mom' and 'punched my mom in the nose' don't really go together.

Sounds like he IS an abuser.  Open your eyes...we don't want to believe anything bad about the ones we love, but they're people with faults and bad things, and sometimes all you can do is recognize it and try to help them the best way you can...and realize that you are not the cause and you are not the fault...it's on them.  

It's heartbreaking, but hang in there and let them sort it out.  If he's violent again, you and your mother should get out and away, and yes, split up.

Answer 13

that's tough to say, i thin that they aren't very happy if she trash talks him and they argue. i think you should sit down with your mom and tell her that if she is unhappy to let your dad go, even though this is going to hard for you, its better for them to be happy and away from each other. trust me my parents have been divorced for a very long time, they used to constantly fight and he even abused her sometimes, their better off apart. i still see my father and their friendly now. if you think that their mostly having a good time than bad times, then that's great but make sure that they aren't becoming miserable, especially your mom. you don't want to grow up and remember all this, make sure their happy and you decide if their better off together or separate, then sit down with your mom. you don't want anyone of them to have a bad life right? so think about that, and this isn't good that you cry yourself to sleep. tell either one how much this is all affecting you and how your a kid. you dont want to have these kind of memories. wish you the best : )

Answer 14

Hey.

Sounds like abit of a disaster zone.

I'd just leave your parents and let them sort it out.

Parents break up all the time, 4 of my friends parents have but its becoming more and more comman.

Try not to get involved in their arguement...

If worse comes to worse, if it happens it happens...

Best of luck.

Chloe

Answer 15

I feel very sorry for you, and personally I know where you are coming from.

I hate to say this but perhaps it would be best, though, for them to separate. If there's so much tension then its not worth it.

But I feel that they really should take YOU into consideration. They are your parents and though they have their own lives, they also have to look after you. They should (I hope) realise what sort of effect this is having on you, and try to sort through the issues. If they don't what you are also suffering, you should try to com,municate it to them in some way (subtle or otherwise)

Either way, I wish you the very best and truly hopes everything works out for you.

Answer 16

Firstly, i am really soory for you. I was in this situation some times ago. If your parents was going to get divorce, your mum would have talked to you and explain the situation and not let you worry.

If your parents still love each other, like they still talk nicely or sleep in the same room etc, then it is a good sign. When my mum and dad were going to get divorced, they did not look at each other, talk to each other or even stay in the same room. They were fighting for everything.

If your parents do talk to each other, it is  very good. Maybe they are trying to find a solution and trying not to fight. If they fight sometimes, it is normal. All married couple fight!

Sorry for that long answer. I think you have to stop worrying to much, and leave it to them to solve. sometimes if you see one of them at fault, try talking to thme nicely and explaining.  

For example' Dad, mum tried to say that...." etc!

If they ever get divorce( which i pray wont happen) then think that it is for your own good and for their own good as well.

Wish you very very very good luck and please stop worrying to much

I pray for u if u want!

cheers!!

Answer 17

it doesn't sound like they are really getting things sorted. to be honest i know this may not be what you want to hear but if this was my parents i would rather they were happy and separate rather than miserable and together. my parents were together until the end of my dads life but i know they were happy, i would not have liked to have seen them go through that

Answer 18

Not a nice place to be.

Unfortunately for you your parents may not know what they want.

They may be staying together for your sake or they may just be doing it for financial and convenience sake.

Whatever the reason it's not your fault, and upsetting as it is, the best thing to do is try and sit down with them and talk about it, let them know how it is making you feel.

I am sure your parents do not want or mean for you to be upset and worried. Just talk to them.

As a parent myself I would not want my children crying themselves to sleep over me and would hope that they would try talking to me over any concerns they might be having.

On the other hand, If they do end up getting divorced it could be for the best if they cannot get on together. Some people do fall apart from each other.

I know it can be tough, my parents separated when I was ten then divorced straight after.

I wish you luck.

Answer 19

well do you really think they are both happy? Your mom might want out and that shouldnt be surprising..i mean look at the circumstances...If the are, dont be sad..it might be for the best. Think of how your mom feels about it before you totally break down. Your mom might want to end it

Answer 20

If your dad punched your mom in the nose, he's abusive.  All the rest doesn't matter.  I hope for your sake that you will be living with the parent who is least abusive...or with your grandfather, if he's any better.  

Answer 21

To me it sounds like they might not?  but hang in there and in situations like these all I do is pray to god and he takes care of things believe me.  I am sure he will take care of your situation just pray to him.  

TO the first guy stop caring about the points and helpthe person,  you are an A**HOLE

Answer 22

This is clearly not a happy household. You need to talk to your parents to find out the answers, nobody on Yahoo will know the answers if you don't know.

I can say that it sounds like a situation in which every member of your family will be happier living apart, violence within the home isn't something that is easily forgotten or forgiven no matter how long ago it was.

Answer 23

I feel for you, how sad that your mother got hit and you now feel the way you do.

You have to think how she may be feeling too, living with the fear that at any time he could do it again when that button is pushed.

If you was going to a school where you was being bullied, it would be hard for you to turn up the next day and face it again.

Just be strong right now and prepare for the worst, and if the worst don't happen, then that's all good.

My biggest regret while growing up was not being big and strong enough to stop a step father from beating my mother for the sillyest of reasons. That was 44 years ago, and i still give my mother a hug but not tell her why, so as not to remind her of such a bad time in her life.

At this time i will ask that you to think of your mother and not yourself at this time.

Keep safe.

Answer 24

Can't say if they're getting divorced. If they haven't gotten divorced yet through all of this drama they probably won't.  But they really should- they are obviously not happy with each other.  And they both sound abusive: your dad physically and emotionally, your mom verbally. Maybe they were not always the abusive type, but they sound like they make each other miserable. What stinks is you have to decide to be more of an adult now: know this has nothing to do with you- remember, parents are human beings first, and humans are flawed and angry and don't always get along.  Maybe you should talk to them about how what is going on makes you feel. Do they really think you don't notice? I used to wish my parents would get divorced- you could tell they did not make each other happy (they finally did when I was 23!) You need to seek solice in your friends and positive activities you can do outside the house, and request that they do their fighting in private.

Answer 25

Why did he punch her in the first place? And if she is sticking around and putting up with him being like a jerk she must still love him regardless what they say to each other when there mad. If they are going to therapy then they are trying to work things out and if they cant then the best thing for them would be to get a divorce. I would try not to let it bother you because no matter what happens they both love you and sometimes people just drift apart.

Answer 26

Talk to your dad MAN to MAN. Tell him what you think.