PARENTS: would you be concerned if your child was emo/scene?

Question

and i mean the look... not the depression or cutting (obviously that would be something to worry over). would you allow your kid to dress emo/scene? is your kid emo/scene?

Answer 1

It's just another stage of kids trying to fit into a class, just like  Goth, or Grunge.  Heck, I was grunge before it even had a name, back in the 1970's when I was in high school.  

However, if the child is cutting or showing signs of depression, I would be concerned and would and have intervened with my own family.

Answer 2

im not a parent but i wanted to answer, if i was no i wouldnt b concerned it is a style, i would only b if they were cutting..........

Answer 3

Okay, so assuming that it is purely the look, and I am 100% positive that my child is depressed or engaged in any destructive behaviors (ie, cutting) then of course.

The way a person dresses is a form of self expression. Just like I always feel better when I have all of my earrings in, or I'm wearing the perfect outfit that is completely me, or I've just dyed my hair burgundy and red, other people deserve to dress the way they feel as well. That includes my kids.

In my family, we were always allowed to dress as we pleased (assuming it was legal and followed the dress code of wherever we would be, all of the vital body parts were covered etc.) and I plan on doing the same with my children.

Answer 4

Well I'm not a parent (I'm 14!)

Stereotyping is so wrong. I don't judge people on what they wear. If I were a mum, I'd be concerned if my child was cutting.

Emo is a music genre. I wouldn't be concerned if my child was wearing makeup, skinny jeans, converses, vans..you know all that. I'd actually be happy that she has his/her own style. But if they started cutting...well that's a different story. But i would be really concerned if she dressed like a s**t and slept with like 6 men in one night.

Here is just something on my Bebo profile about stupid stereotypes:

I'm SKINNY, so I MUST be anorexic

I'm EMO, so I MUST cut my wrists.

I'm BLACK, so I MUST carry a gun.

I'm HISPANIC, so I MUST be dirty.

I'm ASIAN, so I MUST be smart.

I'm NOT LIKE EVERYONE ELSE, so I MUST be a loser.

I'm JEWISH, so I MUST be greedy.

I'm g*y, so I MUST have AIDS.

I'm a L*****n, so I MUST have a s*x-tape.

I'm ARAB, so I MUST be a terrorist.

I SPEAK MY MIND, so I MUST be a *****.

I'm OVERWEIGHT, so I MUST have a problem with self control.

I'm RELIGIOUS, so I MUST shove my beliefs down your throat.

I'm an ATHEIST, so I MUST hate the world.

I'm REPUBLICAN, so I MUST not care about poor people.

I'm DEMOCRAT, so I MUSTmust not believe in being responsible.

I'm SOUTHERN, so I MUST be white trash.

I TAKE ANTI-DEPRESSANTS, so I MUST be crazy.

I'm a GUY, so I MUST only want to get into your pants.

I'm a GIRL, so I MUST be over-dramatic.

I'm IRISH, so I MUST have a bad drinking problem.

I'm INDIAN, so I MUST own a convenient store.

I'm NATIVE AMERICAN, so I MUST dance around a fire screaming like a savage.

I DON'T LIVE WITH MY CHILD, so I MUST be a dead beat parent.

I'm ATHLETIC, so I MUST be stupid.

I'm PREPPY, so I MUST shun those who don't wear Abercrombie & Hollister.

I'm a TEENAGER, so I MUST drink and do drugs.

I'm a CHEERLEADER, so I MUST be a w***e.

I'm a PUNK, so I MUST do drugs.

I'm YOUNG, so I MUST be naive.

I'm RICH, so I MUST be a conceited snob.

I WEAR BLACK, so I MUST be a goth.

I'm BLONDE, so I MUST be a stupid ditz.

I'm WHITE, so I MUST be a nagging, steal-your-money kind of girlfriend.

I'm PRETTY, so I MUST not be a virign.

I'm CUBAN, so I MUST spend my spare time rolling cigars.

I'm MEXICAN, so I MUST have hopped the border.

I'm NOT A VIRGIN, so I MUST be easy.

I FELL IN LOVE WITHA MARRIED MAN, so I MUST be a home-wrecking w***e.

I'm a TEENAGE MOM, so I MUST be an irresponsible s**t.

I'm ITALIAN, so my family MUST own a pizzeria.

I GOT A CAR FOR MY BIRTHDAY, so I MUST be a spoiled brat.

I HAVE STRAIGHT A'S, so I MUST have no social life.

I'm REALLY INTO MY MUSIC, so I MUST be scene.

I DYE MY HAIR CRAZY COLORS, so I MUST be looking for attention.

I'm INTO THEATRE & ART, so I MUST be a homosexual.

I'm a VEGETARIAN, so I MUST be a crazy political activist.

I HAVE A BUNCH OF GUY FRIENDS, so I MUST be ******* them all.

I HAVE A BUNCH OF GIRL FRIENDS, so I MUST be g*y.

I'm COLOMBIAN, so I MUST be a drug dealer.

I WEAR WHAT I WANT, so I MUST be a poser.

I'm RUSSIAN, so I MUST not care about people's feelings.

I'm GERMAN, so I MUST be a n**i.

I'm BRAZILLIAN, so I MUST be a s**t.

I'm PUERTO RICAN, so I MUST rob, do graffiti and stab people.

I WEAR GIRL PANTS, so I MUST have no friends.

My BOYFRIENDS OLDER THAN ME, so he MUST only be w/ me 4 s*x.

I WEAR LEG BRACES, so I MUST be "crippled"

KIDS! DON'T USE LABELS.

Lolz.

xx

Answer 5

i dont think it would bother me...because i was into that sean once and changed my mind like a yr. later and  if thats what my son wants to wear then ill let him wear it he has to be his on person!!!

Answer 6

As long as they weren't writing death poetry or cutting themselves.

Wearing black clothes and skinny pants? Why should I care?

Answer 7

My husband and I were recently discussing this.  Although we believe in allowing our children a freedom of expression, I can't honestly say I'd be OK with letting my teenage sons wear guy-liner and black lipstick.  You know what I mean?  If they want to wear the black clothes and things like that, fine, whatever.  There will be limits though.  I'm not gonna buy the make-up, the hair dye, the piercings and things like that.  I just don't think its appropriate.  There are other ways of expressing yourself.  I won't let my daughter wear gobs of make-up and dress like a s**t, so I'm not gonna let the guys get away with silly stuff like that either.  Of course, my children are all still toddlers.  Perhaps I'll feel differently when that time comes.

*Sorry.  25 year old mother of toddlers here.  I can honestly say I'm not an expert in the stylings of teenage boys, let alone "emo" styles.

Answer 8

my mom say no she says i have a good head on my shoulder and it is my choice to dress or listen to whomever i like or love.

Answer 9

Well, I hate labels, so no. And actually what you would consider "emo", doesn't exist. It was created as a music and should have stayed just a genre of music. But anyway, I think it's wrong to stop a kid from expressing themselves and not letting them wear what they want, and if you mean by the kid shopping at Hot Topic, no. I shop there and by all my slothes there, people think its all scary and everything but half the people have never been in the store, so they wouldn't know. They're just labeling it by 1/4 of the people who shop there. But anyway, my mom buys me stuff from there, but I would be concerned if they were cutting themselves, but please don't stereotypes, it's wrong and stupid. How would you feel if somebody saw you and looked at your clothes and completely hated you for no reason?

Answer 10

well, my parents are concerned. but I'm not emo. i guess you could say I'm goth. but i tell people I'm different. because i am. its nothing to worry about. my personality didn't change  just because my wardrobe did. i wouldn't be concerned, and i plan on letting my kids express themselves, and my parents do too, but they were hesitant.

Answer 11

You shouldnt be concerned, you should let your child be who they want to be, love them for who they are not how they dress

If theres any parents that have a problem with it then they're probaly not a very good parent at all

Its just clothes

Answer 12

i'm now 23, but was big into that scene as a younger kid. my husband and i currently own and operate a record label and are around emo/scene kids ALL THE TIME. while it is funny now, looking back, to think we used to think it was necessary to dress up to be cool, i really don't think its something to worry about. in fact, a big scene movement is the Straight Edge movement (no drugs/alcohol). i'd say that as long as you know your child and they aren't displaying any signs of drug use or major changes, that it is absolutely nothing to worry about! offter to drive them to shows, get to know their friends. be in their lives!!

let them express themselves!

Answer 13

I'd be more concerned if they started wearing those hoochie clothes from hollister and A and F and AE.

Answer 14

well my mom is concerned that I listen to metal...so I'd say my parents definitely would be (are) worried about that. I also hate labels, they're nothing but excuses to discriminate.

Answer 15

yes

Answer 16

I would rather have my son wearing tight jeans and eyeliner than having him wear a gun in his pants.

Remember, there can always be worse.

Answer 17

I would let my child dress emo if they were getting good grades and were responsible.

Answer 18

It's a helluva lot better then dressing like a goddamn hooker, like a lot of girls my age.

Answer 19

my mom actually encourages me to shop at hot topic.

lol.

i dont exactly think im scemo cause i hate labeling myself but thats the main place i shop

so my parents wouldnt really care if i went over the top scemo xP

Answer 20

I'd be fine with it.