PLEASE HELP! Family Issues!?

Question

Hi, I really need some sleep right now. And the estimated time of how many hours I get to sleep is about 4-5 so my flipping annoying son of a gun sister is BANGING on the piano just so I can't get to sleep. I asked her politely to stop then she screams at me I NEED TO LISTEN AND HEAR MY MUSIC! Then I asked her again if she could turn down the volume a little and she was playing the music and screaming LA LA LA LA LAAA! I tried getting to sleep but its just no use.

When I tell my mom about what she does. It only makes matters worst because my mom always takes my sister's side. Then tells my dad who SERIOUSLY need anger management. He yells and curses me out ruining my chances of EVER getting to sleep. No one in this house understands me. My mom and I constantly fight. My sister is a ***** and my dad has issues. It effects me every day. I've even lost my singing voice from my family of all the screaming I've done. I seriously need to go to sleep. My head is drowsy and throbbing. I need a vacation. And I'm only 12.

No my father does NOT abuse anyone in this house so don't get any wise ideas.

I just want to get at least 2 hours of sleep without anyone screaming or telling me off. Which usually happens.

Then there is my dog which I constantly have to walk and if I don't I get in trouble. It's miserable here. And in a few more hours my sister will want to use the computer and we usually get in an argument over it. Then the whole cycle begins again because my dad curses me out, I get grounded, then I can't speak my mind or else my dad threatens to hit me.

Again NO my dad is NOT an abuser.

Please help, sorry if you think this is too long. It's just what goes on in my house and I can't take it anymore.

Answer 1

Ok, heres what you do, get a job and move out as soon as possible. As for your dad, and understand I know he's not physically abusing you, but he is abusing you. He threatens to hit you and screams at you, that's verbal abuse honey. When he threatens to hit you, which he probably won't, stand your ground, tell him to do it. Be like dad, go ahead, hit me. He won't know what the h**l to do. But yeah the only way to get away from this kind of c**p is to move away.  

Answer 2

Ok here goes...

As much as you do not want to hear this... You need to realize that you are 12 and you are going through emotions and changes which makes everything that goes wrong worse.

Ask your sister what time she is going to practice the piano and what time is good for your to nap? Set a dog walking schedule and post it on the frig. That way everyone knows when the dog goes out and when the dog just wants to play outside. *My dog scratches at the door just to play, he doesn't really need to go potty* If you have a schedule posted then everyone knows that he or she has already gone out and not to bug you.

As far as your dad cursing, etc. That is not your fault. It doesn't mean he is a bad parent, it just means he doesn't communicate well with you. Believe it or not there are alot of parents out there who loose track of what is important because they are so busy with the other everyday things. Work, paying bills, etc.  That is no excuse but it is unfortunately true for alot of families.

Try talking to your dad. But you need to remember that you need to speak to him in a respectable way too. Otherwise it may trigger his anger. *although it is not acceptable to yell and curse at you - try not to trigger it* Tell your dad ow you feel when he talks to you that way and make a pact to try to work on respecting each other when you speak.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

ur sister needs to learn some respect and i hate to say but for short term results beat the c**p out of her she  treats you like s*** so treat her like it as for your mom she obviously sees you as the bad egg try and impress her som how while getting her to realise what a little s*** your sister is worke for me now its my house. as for sleep take regular naps durring the day

Answer 4

Your dad's constant yelling and losing his temper with you IS abuse!  With that said, is there any way you could just sneak off into a quiet area of the house like the basement or something and take a nap?  Just bring some blankets and a pillow and "camp out" in the basement or outside porch or something.  Don't tell anyone where you're going or nothing, just slip away and get your sleep!

Answer 5

juz giv thm da silent treatment as if u dont care bout life nemor nd c their reaction...if tat dusnt work thn runaway :]  

Answer 6

I'm sure everyone goes to bed at night, so should you. It's your dog, take care of him. In a few hours your sister wants on the computer, so if you have been on it that long, then get off and share.  Sounds like want everything your way. Sorry when a family is a family, then they need to learn to get along with each other. Your Dad would probably like to throw both of you out the door so he could get some peace.  

Answer 7

If you have your own room, get an Ipod, MP3 or cd player and listen to some soothing music (classical, jazz, or any instrumental music). Get some good headphones (not earbuds) and it should help you out tremendously.

Do you have any of these? send me an email if you have anymore questions