PLEASE HELP I'M PREGNANT! :) How 2 tell mom?

Question

Hiya guys

ok so i'm pregnant (4weeks) and have thought about my options i want to keep the baby but under the circumstances it's very difficult and i need some of your advice :)

the pregnancy is the result of a one night stand with a best friends friend. He says he's there no matter what 2bh tho i don't want 2 c him again but i know that's selfish!! I don't know how to tell my mom i'm 19 and live at home in a very crowded house there's not much room for a baby! But i realli want this baby! My friend's have said i should do what i think i want 2 do as at the end of the day it's my life, i'm an adult and if i think about others then come 10 years time i myt regret it!

Plzzz help guys, thanks X

Answer 1

The decision is up to you, do what you think is the best. You are a adult, and you can make your own decision. If you want the baby, keep it. Dont let someone put you down. Tell you mom as soon as possible, just so she knows.

Answer 2

Are you saying you live in the same house as her? You have to tell your mother no matter what. Its better to tell her before you start getting the bump because she might get angry of the fact that you didn't tell her as soon as you found out, it could effect trust issues. Just tell her in private when you are the only 2 home or something. She will love you no matter what so she will find a way to deal with this and she might want to give it to adoption because the price to keep another human being in a house is costly, and if she is the one paying the bills she has the right to say who stays in the house or not. But you probably have a job which can help. This is just a very big lesson to you, s*x is not just a fun thing, and if you have it with someone you don't know it causes huge problems, you don't even know where that guy has been or how many girls he has had s*x with. Well I will stop, you will probably get enough of this lecture with your mom.

Take Care

Please dont get an abortion.

Answer 3

im 19 almost 20 and pregnant myself. i still live at home in also a crowded home but my partner and i are going to  get our own place. you can apply for a flat if your parents dont want you to stay there. but you are old enough to take responsibility and im sure if they are angry they will come round, this baby is their flesh and blood too. good luck and dont worry.

Answer 4

Im not saying this to be mean i just wondering how can ppl have one night stands that produces a child and u really dont know that person like that or dont plan on knowing she/him that well? Either ways its ur decision and as for not seeing him again is B.S. cause thats his baby he has every right to be in its life and if u dont like the fact, abort. And just tell her she might be happy and start kickin other grown ppl out the house to make room for her grandbaby!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>might i add to *looks down* wow pregnant twice before 18, shame, ugh

Answer 5

Just flat out tell you mother. She may be mad (she may not), but she will still love you no matter what.

After that, you must decide if you are going to keep it or not. Thta is going to have to come from you and only you.

Answer 6

39 weeks and due in 4 days... I am 27 years old and not married. Telling my family was the hardest thing I ever had to do. ( My fam is really religious) But I had to do it. I just called my dad ( he is a pastor ) and said hey I have something we need to talk about. He said is it bad or good. I said well it depends on how you look at it. He said your not pregnant are you. I said BINGO. He did not say anything and was disappointed in me for awhile. Now he is looking forward to meeting his grandson. It will be ok. Parents love us and will have our back. You will be fine. Just tell them. If you are a single mother you will need all the support you can from your family during the next 8 months.  

Answer 7

i told my mom through an e greeting card. see when i was 18 i was pregnant with this guy who wasnt exactly a boyfriend kind of was kind of wasnt. i was so scared i told her in a card i didnt know how to say it in person. got an abortion. im now almost 23 (in sept) and although i was still scared to tell my mom because of the last time i wrote her an e- greeting a nice one and wrote some nice stuff in there also. and me n my mom are pretty close. but with me i've never been to0 good to open up my feelings in person.. face to face. im more comfortable with writing it out. so whatever way you feel more comfortable for you you do.

Answer 8

hi, i have just turned 16 and i am 13 weeks pregnant, and i was pregnant at 14 and @ 14 i came straight out and told my mum, yeah she was disappointed in me but she understood, and i had an abortion and she help me all the way through it, and now i am 13 weeks pregnant, and i told my mum the day i found out, because we don't live together, we live in different states, but she was ok she has been helping me by buying stuff and telling me things i am going to need to know, so i think you should be honest with your mum, because she is the only one that will ever be able to help you, just sit her down and explain it to her, your better of being up front about it then hiding it from her, cause your going to get fat and she obviously knows what a baby bump looks like and what do you think she will say then....

Sexy_mummy.....

Answer 9

well im 17 and told my mum by text message lol but i should of told her face to face bc she was well happy and helped me alot  

Answer 10

hi sweetie,

  I know what you are going though  should I should I not?    Well the answer is tell her. Yes you are young, but you are a adult, and sound like in  32 weeks you are going to be a proud moma.   I was only 17 and I was so confussed and scarred, Yes my moma was upset / mad but then she came back down to earth and done what was right and helped her baby.

   Just like you she might be upset, but she will see you need her, you trusted her enough to go to her for help and that will make her feel great knowing you wanted her there and her help.

   good luck on your choice to keep this blessing

Answer 11

have it and then give it up if you cant do it but dont ever kill the baby you will live with such great remorse & regret for ever as i have had friends that did this and now they have tried to kill them selves many times bc of the regret they feel.  and when you die what do you want to say to God ? hello i killed my baby when i was younger but i was young so that makes it ok ?

please think this one through  

Answer 12

Your friends are right, you are an adult and this decision is entirely up to you..

I think if your honest with your mam and just sit down with her and tell her face to face she will appreciate your honesty and courage..

to be honest your not that young Im 20 il be 21 giving birth please god, and believe me its the most beautiful thing in the world.

My midwife told me that young mothers make the best mothers..

Answer 13

U MUST TELL HER AT ONCE DONOT BE AFFRAID BSCAUSE SHE HELP U VERY MUCH AND U WELL NEED HELP REALLY AT THE END SHE IS UR MUM  

Answer 14

I was 17 when i got pregnant with my daughter and I just told my mom that I missed my period and she said well then take a test. I told her I already did. She said and... and I said it was pos.  

Answer 15

Well let me tell you having a baby is nothing to fluff you must make the best decision for yourself i had my first daughter at 19 and yeah i think i was a wonderful mother but i had to sacrifice alot of things for her to have the best. When my daughter was 5 mo i had a place of my own an a car and that is the part that makes you grown not age. If you really want this baby and have enough work ethic to take care of it with or without the daddy go ahead and become the best mother you can be. words of encouragement  its only as bad as you make it. the hardest part is babysitters when you turn 21 and want to party on the weekends and believe me you will have some weekends you just want to be free. having a baby is a life changing experience and good luck. I did it and you can too. Your mother is the least of your worries.

Answer 16

Did your mom Punish you severly when you snuck out or something like that?

If yes then i would text her and stay at a friends house for a couple of days to let her cool off (include in text that your staying at a friends houes but dont say which)

Other wise if she's nice and understanding then tell her face to face and hopefully she'll help

Answer 17

i know how difficult it is to tell ur parents ,but its the best thing to do. you might hear angry or even curse words from them but at the end they will understand ur situation. just dont do anything that u will regret later.congrats new mom!