PLEASE HELP....Im 13????!!!!!!???

Question

Ok my parents are divorced and my dad is going to get re-married soon ...I really want to move in with them and my older half sister is going to move in with them because her college is like right next door....and my sister really wants me to move in to because we are really close....so anyway I legally live with my mom and see my dad every other weekend and I have dinner with him during the school week on wednesdays and I spend the holidays with him most of the time....and I go to hishouse every other week in the summer.....so is it legal for me to choose where I want to live........And I live in Texas and im 13

Answer 1

you can voice your opinin to the courts, but in the end its their decision.

Answer 2

if i were u i would do some research but the court should take your testimony into hand therefore it could be the deciding factor in who you stay with

good luck

Answer 3

Most states let the children decide who they want to live with once they turn 12.  Check with the counselor at your school.  

Answer 4

I think you should discuss this with both your parents.  

Answer 5

you might as well just try talking to them both.  no matter what, that has to be your first step. when you do talk to your mom, be sure to tell her that you love and respect her, that you are grateful for her and want to be close to her for the rest of your life.  she will always be your mother and you will always be her daughter and you need her near you always, no matter where you live.  then calmly tell her why you want to move (and don't include things like "more freedom" "like dad's house better") focus on your relationship with your sister and wanting to know your dad better.

be prepared for her to freak out and maybe even verbally attack your motives.  BE STRONG AND CALM.  let her know that you understand how much she loves you and that this might be hard for all of you.  Then repeat the love for her, respect for her and add that you'll take her teachings and advice with you wherever you go.  Tell her you'll talk every day and visit her MORE than you visit your dad right now.

There might be good reasons, though, why your mom has custody of you and not your dad.  Do you know for sure that your dad wants custody of a minor?  It is less responsibility having a college aged child in your home than an adolescent.  Is he (and his new wife) up for that?  It is very possible that new wife will want alone time with husband and is OK with visitation but nothing more.  Your mom might try to protect you from that, too.  There are many things your parents will do for you which they can't tell you the reasons for because they want to protect you.  They do it even if you hate them for the rest of your life, so please, whatever the outcome, trust your mother.  She's the only person in the world who would unconditionally lay her life down for you.

Answer 6

you should be old enough to decide, but it's up to the courts I believe.

Answer 7

Your mother doesn't "own" you but she does have the legal guardian status of you so you will either have to go to court to explain yourself or talk to your mom; otherwise I think this might cause some trouble for your dad. Good luck!