PLEASE HELP ME A.S.A.P.?

Question

Alright, I am 14 soon to be 15. I have a friend who is a girl, who I have known for 11 years. Now in December i jioned cyber school and did not tell her that i was leaving. on new years eve her mom called me. my mom picked up and she said that i would call her back, we have guest over. my mom than told me that her mom said that Carolynn was worrying about me (THATS THE GIRLS NAME). i just called her back in May asking if she would like to do something she says yes. i thought that it would be a date. we did 4 things together during summer. and about 2 weeks ago i gave her a letter saying that i loved her and always loved her. i always thought that she loved me. she mailed me a letter saying that she wasnt ready to date, but the way it read was that she wants to its just that she needs a friend now more than ever. than we went to an amusment park. i knew that something wasnt right. than i asked her i said "Carolynn was the letter you gave me saying that you want to date its just that your not ready, or was it your nice way of saying i dont want to date you?" than she said "it was the nice way of telling you" so my question to you guys is 1: what would you do if you were in my shoes. 2: do you think that we can start dating in the future 3:girls what does she mean 4: how do you get a girl to like you 5:what should i say to her thank you all so very much for your help and heres a little bonus info we kissed in pre-first we were always best friends when we were ten she gave me a letter that said she was starting to like me more than a friend thanks again.

Answer 1

hey, for some reason you put your question in the health forum, so you won't get any answers.  I suggest you put it into the "singles and dating" forum.  Just copy and paste it and put it there.

but I will answer you anyway.

1.) If I were in your shoes, I would give up.  This girl has been VERY straightforward with her answer, and she is trying to be nice, but you are being persistent.

2.) No, I do not think you will date her in the future, unless it's years later and you both have changed and run into each other.  However, anything's possible.

3.) She means that she's not interested.  Perhaps she found someone else or perhaps she doesn't feel the chemistry.  it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.

4.) You can't make someone like you, but think back to how you reacted with her so you can improve with girls in the future.  Were you too obsessive?  Too overbearing?  Do you look for girls who are out of your league?  Think about all of this.  Also, the fact that you kissed in kindergarten means nothing...not to be mean, but unless you're six now, it really is just child's play.

5.) Just tell her you respect what she says, and say you just want to be friends (but only if you honestly want to be friends.  Do not use "being friends" as a way to get back with her or to make her like you, because it won't work, and she will feel tricked).  If you do not want to be friends with her, just don't talk to her anymore, and if she talks to you, be nice but don't be too inviting.

Hope I helped!