PLEASE HELP ME I THINK IM PREGNANT, IM 14 YEARS OLD. ?

Question

hey, my name is Maelina and im 14 years old. im currently with a boy that is 16 and im sexually active with him. i met another guy a couple months ago and hes 19 and i cheated on my boyfriend with this guy. i feel terrible now. the 19 year old bought me soo many clothes and jewlery and shoes and brought me out to eat and the movies and everything like that. one day i was in his car and he started to touch me and i let him.. it led onn and i ended up having s*x with him i should of stopped him from the touch. and we ended up having s*x 2 times after that day. noww my period is late. my last period was july 18. im throwing up everytime i eat or smell food/ purfume/ any kind of smell. im having really bad headaches, i get dizzy wen im in school playing gym. but i did bleed like around august 16 it was light pink and light brown and it lasted like 5 mintutes just little drops in my underwear. i dont know what to do!!!!! i cant tell my boyfriend because i havnt had s*x with him since my last period soo he will deff kno i cheated on him! please help me my parents will kill me!!! they already have one pregnant daughter. they dont want another.. i told the 19 year old that my period is late and hes being support but idk its just the fact that hes 19 and im 14!! is that counted as rape?? if it is it really wasnt i spred my legs to him willingly.. stupid decision. PLEASE DONT JUDGE ME IM NOT HERE TO BE YELLED AT I JUST WANT SOME ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO.. THANKS IN ADVANCE.

Answer 1

Yes, it's considered rape. He's of age and he willingly and knowingly had s*x with a minor, even if you willingly did it, too. You have to tell your mom now so she can help you. If you don't, things are just going to go downhill from here. But don't expect people not to judge you. A fourteen year old shouldn't be sexually active. You brought this one yourself.  

Answer 2

Well you do need to talk to your parents. I know it would be hard to do but it is the best thing to do, you need proper medical care. You will have to tell your boyfriend because eventually he will find out, it really can't be hid. There again, hard but needs to be done. It isn't fair to him to keep him around and you never know he might forgive you and stick with you. If you want the 19 year old, you will most likely have to get your parents permission and then legally it may still not be ok depending on where you live. I know they see it as statutory rape pretty much everywhere with that age difference whether you were willing or not. Kiddo it sounds like you have yourself in a pickle of a situation. Just get some help from someone and be good to yourself and the little one you are going to have.

Answer 3

You need to take a pregnancy test first to see if you are actually pregnant. You sound very stressed, and stress can cause your period to be late. If you are pregnant you need to sit down and explain to your mom that you are pregnant. Also, if your parents wish they can press charges against the 19 year old, it is called statutory rape, even though you were consenting it is illegal.  

Answer 4

That is a situation! Well, my advice....before you say anything...is take a test, that way you know for sure if you are or aren't. If it comes back positive then you have some things to do. First off....you would have to tell your boyfriend as well as the potential father. Then you would have to tell your parents. They may be upset with you at first, but they would be your biggest support in the long run. As for if it could be considered rape....since you're a minor, you parents could press charges for rape because he's over 18 if they so chose, but that would be on them. So I hope this helps a little. Good luck sweetie

Answer 5

I don't believe this at all..

It all sounds to stupid like its some sort of TV show.

A person can't have it this bad can they?

Anyways.. you made a vital mistake.

Get support from people like your parents.

Answer 6

HUGS & yes hun you have to tell your mom - you are way to young to deal with this all by yourself - i feel so sorry for you - more HUGS

Answer 7

First, you need to take a home pregnancy test.  If it is positive, you need to tell your parents.  You are very young and you need guidance from someone who loves you unconditionally, your parents.  I can only imagine how upset they will be, but you can work through it together as a family.  The sooner you take the test, the better.  If you are pregnant, you will need proper medical attention and need to adjust you habits accordingly to do what is best for the little life developing inside you.  And don't worry about your boyfriend, you and the baby are the most important thing.  Boys will come and boys will go.  

Answer 8

ok honey...first of all, you need to take a test(they have them at alot of dollar stores, I know dollar tree has them if you have one near you) or have this 19 year old buy you one.  Yes it can be counted as rape because of the age difference even though you were ok with it the law is not.  After you get the results of the prego test you seriously need to reevaluate your life decisions(regardless of the results, you are going to need to make some changes)  Please stop having s*x until you are old enough to deal with the consequences and why aren't you using protection?  Sweetie if they aren't using condoms with you then they aren't using them with any other girls they have been with...think about that...ewwww!  I hope your test is negative I will pray for you but if it is positive you need to talk to your mother she will be upset but I'm sure she will always be there for you.  And I know there are alot of supportive and helpful people on this site so please come to us if you need anything :^)   Good luck!

Answer 9

I think you should take a home pregnancy test. if the result is positive i think you should consult with your mother. if its negative i think you should go to the doctor.

Answer 10

You can forget about the boyfriend sticking around, he won't. it's not his baby, he won't stick around. Probably wouldn't if it WAS his.

What this guy did to you was rape. You have missed your period and most likely are pregnant. Take a pregnancy test and then tell your mom. You are a child. You need to tell your mother and get support. Then go to a free clinic in your area and start getting medical attention immediately. Hopefully after you have this baby you'll think twice about having s*x before you're married or at least old enough to handle the responsibility, let alone unprotected s*x!

Answer 11

not to yell at you but youre 14 yrs old..if you dont understand some of the consequences of having unprotected s*x then you shouldnt have it..especially with older boys..plus the fact that you probably havent even really hit puberty yet. i would definetly take a pregnancy test and if you are then you need to tell your parents..you should watch that show on the abc channel call "the secret life of the american teenager".

Answer 12

Take the test, and then figure everything out.

Also, that is technically rape.

Answer 13

Maybe you can google free clinics in your home town.

You could def. be pregnant.

Good luck...

XoXo SHA_BABii  

Answer 14

1) Pregnancy Test If negative

2) Talk to parents

3) Double check with the doctor

4) If pregnant, good luck with the labour.

Answer 15

Hi, im sorry youre in this situation. what is done is done and you have to move on [so ppl dont bash her!]. anyways try to get a trusted friend or adult be there with you to tell your parents. that will make it much easier. also since its the 19 year old baby and he IS supportive, keep the baby and give it up for adoption. Or you can keep it. But you probably will have to break up with your boyfriend. Also try to ask someone to take you to a doctor to make sure youre okay. Good luck hun and remember a baby wont ruin your life.

yes it will be considered statutory rape if they report it. So unless your parents or someone else tells on him then nothing will happen.

Answer 16

Please tell your mom or dad.....they love you and only want the best for you...yes, they will be disappointed but your confiding in them will only build trust for the future.   You can contact your nearest Planned Parenthood as well for a free Pregnancy test and counseling.   Good luck and buy a pack of condoms.  Being pregnant is one thing but getting HIV, HPV or any other STD could be life-threatening.  NO GUY IS WORTH IT.    

Answer 17

hey don't worry about it i know what ur goin through its hard ..look have your bf take you to the doctor and find out tell me what happends and if youneed to talk my email is [e-mail] good luck hon =) take care